(Closed) Share your "underwhelming" proposals!

posted 8 years ago in Proposals
Post # 32
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I actually prefer the underwelming proposals. This is real life…I don’t need fireworks and flowers and unicorns and rainbows.

I always knew he wanted to get married. We had a trip to Mexico planned in June 2012 and when we booked it, he said “why don’t we get married in Mexico?” I said ok. Turns out it was too much trouble to do so.

So we went and looked at rings and discussed eloping. He was at work when my ring was ready, so I picked it up from the jeweler. When he got home he said “why aren’t you wearing your ring?” So I put it on.

That’s about it. And I’m totally ok with it.

Post # 33
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@MrsToB:  This is so completely how me and FH are! We had been shopping around for a bit and went in a store yesterday and somehow just ended up coming out with a ring… he never realy proposed! haha and we are also splitting the cost.

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@SoonToBeMrsRiley:  I LOVE the cost-splitting thing.  A few of my friends were positively scandalized when they learned that she and I paid for the ring together.  However, our finances have been combined for a few years, beginning when I was in law school and completely broke.  If you really are a team, than the money is yours, combined, anyway.  What difference does it make?  Glad to know that other brides are willing to chip in.  

Laughing

Post # 35
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@KelannaDC:  I agree…the money will be coming from the same place anyway..so who cares, right! 🙂

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

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@lolot:  I have the email saved, of course. It’s at least a LITTLE sentimental.

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@MissOtter31:  Is it crazy that I absolutely prefer the way he did the proposal? I’m kind of anxious at what a HUGE DEAL my SO is making out of the proposal. He’s verrrry romantic and I’m a little bit more practical. I don’t necessarily need a huge fanfare production. I know this is verrrrry unusual for a girl to be saying this. I’m just getting nervous and would love something low-key like yours. And seriously…forget the people that pity you for the way he proposed. The important thing is that you’ve both willingly chosen to go down this amazing path together. Congratulations 🙂

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We had been talking about getting married for a longggg time. A few months before he actually proposed, I had sent him some examples of some really beautiful antique rings that I found online. He ended up buying the one that I told him was my favorite. It would have been a really great surprise, but he left the shipping receipt on the dining room table by accident! Hahaha. So when he asked if we could go to dinner that Saturday night, I knew what was coming. He was fidgety and nervous all during dinner. It was actually kind of adorable. We had a really wonderful, fun dinner at this place by the beach. I was actually really greatful that he didn’t propose during dinner with a whole bunch of people around. So, we’re walking out to the car and I think, “Oh, okay. Maybe we’re going to go for a walk on the beach!”. Um, no. He popped the question right in the parking lot. Haha. I wouldn’t have changed it though. It was a perfect moment.

He actually did surprise me with something though. A few days before the proposal, he called my father and mother to ask for their permission to marry me. Sweetest thing ever and I totally wasn’t expecting it!

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I love my proposal.  It fit us.  However I am sure others find it underwhelming.

 

It was Christmas Eve and my Dad’s birthday.  We went to church with my brother and SIL and my Pop-Pop.  Came home to change before going to my parents for my Dad’s bday dinner.  I had changed into sweatpants and a Jimmy Buffett Margaritaville Christmas long sleeve t-shirt.  I was yelling at him to hurry up we were going to be late.  He insisted we open our stockings as we always do after Christmas Eve Mass (not we usually go to midnight not 4:30).  I got to the last item and it was a ring box and he was down on one knee saying nice things I don’t remember.  Yep at home in our sweats before my Dad’s birthday dinner. We usually do joke stocking gifts, he got candy, a silly toy and snowman poop (mini-marsmallows for hot chocolate. – oops)

 

I love that I got to spend the night with my family (his mom and her partner came over after) and then spent Christmas with both of our families and extended families.

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MissOtter31:  awwwwe! I think that’s really sweet! My guy tried to go big but it sort of tipped me off that he was about to propose so it was less of a surprise really and I wish I hadn’t been able to expect it so I actually probably would have prefered your proposal! lol

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

Fiance and I sitting on couch watching TV, we’re being dorks and texting each other while sitting next to each other…my phone rings I have a text message from Fiance it says “Will you marry me?”  I look at him and kinda giggle, roll my eyes and say “sure”.  Fiance gets a little miffed because I didn’t take it seriously and he was seriously proposing to me.  Ooops he wasn’t down on one knee, how was I supposed to know.  LOL I laugh about it now but it did sorta spark a small arguement between us.

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

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@Nona99:  Yours reminds me of a friend but on the opposite side.  He did the whole big thing, flowers, rose petals, candles, suit and tie, on one knee bit.  First words out of her mouth?  “Can I have my ring now?”  They had picked it out together months before and had held it over her head (teasing) since.  But still…

Post # 43
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

My proposal came by text message. 

My husband was away in another province on a course. I got a text message late on Saturday night, which was actually our anniversary, saying “will you merry me” (typo and all!). I was like, um, what the heck, and replied “yes”. Though I was a little confused as it was out of character for him to text rather than talk to me, especially something like that. 

A few short moments later I got a hasty and hard to understand call from him where I found out he was being taken into the emergency room and he had snuck me the text and now the phone call. He asked me again if I would marry him, and I said yes again. 

I arranged flights out to where he was as soon as I could and was there at the hospital the next afternoon (after a two hour drive, two flights, and another 2 hour drive since they moved him to another hospital!). He confirmed he meant it, and that since he had no idea what was going to happen when he got taken into the hospital he had needed to ask me, he knew he wanted me in his life always, and there we were. Though it was an “underwhelming” proposal for many I am sure it was certainly very heartfelt and though the circumstances were a bit scary I have fond memories of it all too. We spent the Canadian Thanksgiving weekend in the hospital (well he did, and I visited all day and stayed at a hotel, then took a few days out at one of our favourite places (where we did later get married) before coming back home). We still tend to ask each other often if the other will “marry me?” in rather underwhelming ways, even though by this point we are already married!

I have honestly never considered my proposal underwhelming though, even if it was not overly planned. It was heartfelt, spontaneous, and I am not at all embarassed about it, no matter what others may think 🙂

I do sometimes joke that the only ring that came with my proposal was the sound of my cellphone’s text message alert. Tongue Out

Post # 44
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

There are more “underwhelming” posts than overwhelming proposal stories but congrats to everyone!! I dont thing some are that bad!!

Post # 45
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Bumble bee

My Hubby proposed on Valentines. I had told him long before that I didn’t want anything done in public, so I wasn’t expecting anything huge. Anyways I got home from work, and not 10 minutes late his sister drops in to visit. Ok no big deal right, well she has never EVER come by our place, EVER! and she decides to drop by on Valentines and not just for a few minutes she stayed for like 2 hours. Well this basically threw my Hubby for a loop as his wasn’t expecting that. So by the time we made dinner and ate and whatnot it was like 10pm and I was tired and cranky and wanted to go to bed. I dont really remember what happened after that but I know I was upset and basically threw my hubby’s gift at him which was a very long sweet letter that I had taken a long time to write. He finished reading the letter and grabbed me, made me stand up and he proposed to me right then and there. He told me after that he had this whole night planned at home for us to lead up to his proposal but it really didn’t go as planned at all. We picked out my engagement ring after the fact, as I wanted to pick out my own ring.

Post # 46
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I guess mine counts as underwhelming to some.

My fiancé told me that he had another Christmas present for me when we came back from Christmas break (our last break of graduate school). So I thought for sure he was making something homemade for me but hadn’t finished it yet. So on the Thursday after New Years I went to work all day and when I got home started asking him about my present since I thought he had all day while I was gone to finish it. For like an hour we teased each other, him saying he wasn’t sure if I wanted it now and making me guess what it was. I of course was thinking homemade and guessed stuff like paper mache!! hahaha. So he finally agrees to give my present to me and brings me a little box covered in post it notes (he post it note wrapped it) and when I opened it, it had a post it note saying “I love you” in it. I told him I loved him too and gave him a kiss while thinking this must not be it… no way it took him a week to finish that! hahaha. So I notice he has an arm behind his back and tell him to give me the real present behind his back. He pulls out the ring and says “Will you marry me?”. I look at him then at the ring and ask him if he is serious! hahaha, I was in total shock. Then I of course say yes and by then I am crying because I really had no clue at all! It was such a surprise. We were dressed in our pjs in our apartment bedroom for all of this. 

We had been dating for about 3.5 years and living together for a year and half so we had discussed engagement but decided to wait until after we graduated and moved halfway across the country to get engaged (going to happen in the next two months).  He was following me and didn’t have a job there yet.  So the timing was a complete surprise since he moved it up and I had no clue.  It was the perfect proposal for me but may seem a little tame to some.   Now its been almost two years and its time to actually plan this wedding, haha.

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