(Closed) Share Your Vows?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m writing my own, but I don’t want to post them. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@BridieBea:  Not necessarily that people will steal them, hey if people want to repeat the same words I’m saying, then that’s not really writting their own vows is it? 

For me, it’s just thst they are personal, and I don’t want them “out there” so to speak. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Fiance and I were originally planning on writing our own, and have yet to do it yet! I’m still trying to figure out what I want to say. How do you sum everything up into just a few lines? 

 

@mockblock:  

@FortiesFlare:  I don’t need to see your vows specifically, but do you guys have any advice to those of us that are writing our own? How did you start? Just a little lost in that department….

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@BridieBea:  not really, it just feels like one of the few things in the wedding that we can really keep just for us.

 

 

 

@starz88962: To get them started, I just kinda jotted down things I wanted to say, then started to fill things in from there. Looking at old cards that you’ve given each other is helpful. I tried to also sprinkle in a few funny things (one thing I threw in was, “I promise to always clean your protein bottles” because working out together is important to us). My side is sort of like 1. reasons I love you, 2. promises, etc.

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@starz88962:  Really I just wrote down all the things I wanted to make sure I mentioned (the promises I wanted to make) such as, being faithfull, respect, etc etc. I had about 9 things. So I put them together. “I promise ____ and ____”  “I will always ____ and ____” 

So now I have the outline of what I want to say. I now have to go back in and try to personalize them a bit more, maybe try to add something a little light hearted in there. You know? 

I have  the base, and I’m happy with them so far, but I need something to personalize them. The only problem is I don’t want to say anything too funny, like when guys vow to always put the toilet seat down.. I don’t like that, because it likely isn’t true, and it’s not something they will follow through with, so I don’t see the point in vowing something I know I’m not going to follow through with. I don’t plan on breaking my vows. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@mockblock:  I like that structure: 1) reasons I love you, 2) promises. Thanks for your help!

 

 

@FortiesFlare:  I think 9 sounds like a good amount. I don’t want to say too many, but at the same time this is our vows we are talking about! I want them to be genuine and well thought out. Its just hard to picture just saying a few sentences about our lifetime commitment. And I agree with you about the funny things. I don’t think I will include any. Idk, I want it to be a serious moment. You’re absolutely right, I don’t want to vow something that I cannot follow through with. Great point!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@starz88962:  Welcome! And good luck. It’s actually a lot of fun once you get rolling with writing them.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

In drafting vows I think the most important thing as already mentioned is to be honest and realistic. There are some beautifully romantic vows out there but I too want to make sure that these promises are things I can continue to manage.

The only other thing i would consider after having read so many is to remember that these are vows you are exchanging not a love letter.

I feel like some vows are just  a massive massive list of reasons why the partner is loved and then a few quick promises at the end.

A Practical Wedding has a great forum where they asked people to post their vows and there are some true inspirations there.

 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

@FortiesFlare:  I just wrote out vows even though I am only just about to get engaged! I write alot so it was easy for me but mine have no humour what so ever in them. I wrote down the things I wanted to promise and follow through on and about the same as your ammount. I don’t see why people make them funny, they are your wedding vows.

 

I read on a vow website make sure you include some funny and light hearted bits so it is not too heavy and your guests feel comfortable. That is forgetting that it isn’t just a script for the ceremony.. it is a list of promises you are swearing in front of the law or god or whatever that you will not break for the rest of your life!  

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