Post # 1
Looking for ideas for mine. I would love to see different vows whether they are original or not. And looking for something nice for a reading or two that is preferable non religiously or at least not overly so. Thanks ladies!
Post # 2
Following as I need ideas.
I thought about using “Its all I hav to bring today.” but someone said its a poem about death…probably not good.
Post # 3
We wrote our own vows. We wanted them to be short and sweet, still sound somewhat traditional but still be unique to us and fit our relationship.
I ________ take you ____________ to be my wife/husband. I promise to choose you every day, to love you in word and deed, to do the hard work of making now into always. To remember that neither one of us is perfect but to strive to remind myself of the ways we are perfect for each other. I will laugh with you in times of joy, and comfort you in times of sorrow. I will share in your dreams and support you as you strive to achieve your goals. I will listen to you with compassion and understanding, and speak to you with encouragement. I will be faithful to you and honest with you; I will respect, trust, help, and care for you; I will share my life with you; I will forgive you as we have been forgiven; and with you I will try to better understand ourselves, the world, and God; through the best and worst of what is to come. Promising all of this I take you to be my lawfully wedded wife/husband, my constant friend, my partner-in-crime, and my love from this day forward.
This was the reading we used – there is a religious line but you could easily take it out and it would still make sense.
Post # 4
this is the reading Mother-In-Law did at our wedding.
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On Love by Thomas à Kempis
“Love is a mighty power, a great and complete good; Love alone lightens every burden, and makes the rough places smooth. It bears every hardship as though it were nothing, and renders all bitterness sweet and acceptable. The love of Jesus is noble, and inspires us to great deeds; it moves us always to desire perfection. Love aspires to high things, and is held back by nothing base. Love longs to be free, a stranger to every worldly desire, lest its inner vision become dimmed, and lest worldly self-interest hinder it or ill-fortune cast it down. Nothing is sweeter than love, nothing stronger, nothing higher, nothing wider, nothing more pleasant, nothing fuller or better in heaven or earth; for love is born of God, and can rest only in God above all created things.
Love flies, runs, leaps for joy; it is free and unrestrained. Love gives all for all, resting in One who is highest above all things, from whom every good flows and proceeds. Love does not regard the gifts, but turns to the Giver of all good gifts. Love knows no limits, but ardently transcends all bounds. Love feels no burden, takes no account of toil, attempts things beyond its strength; love sees nothing as impossible, for it feels able to achieve all things. Love therefore does great things; it is strange and effective; while he who lacks love faints and fails.”</div>
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Post # 5
We had ‘marry a girl who reads’ and ‘a lovely love story’. We’vr had so many compliments on both of them, and they both seemed to ‘fit’ us 🙂
Post # 6
I will have to look those up!
Post # 7
Union by Robert Fulghum
You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes, to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making commitments in an informal way. All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks – all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married”, and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” – all those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.
The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.”
Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, even teacher, for you have learned much from one another these past few years. Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same.
For after today you shall say to the world –
This is my husband. This is my wife.
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Post # 9
We used Robert Fulghum’s “Union” too. And an excerpt from the first gay marriage decision out of Massachusetts that just beautifully talked about how important civil marriage is.
We wrote our vows together. I had them written out by our calligrapher for an anniversary gift. I’m too lazy to type them, so I’m attaching as a photo and hopefully you can read it!
Post # 10
Also, I read a passage from Stephen King’s 11.22.63 at my best friend’s wedding last summer. I think her husband chose it. I’d never even read that story and I found it so moving and beautiful that I started bawling while I was reading it to them.
Sorry I ruined your wedding video with my feelings, friends!! 😭💦🌊
Post # 10
mrsbrizz2017 : lindsayE :
OMG I love Union. I got watery eyed reading it. That is definately going on the choice list!