- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Heyya Lady Bees!
First, I just wanted to thank everybody for the kind words and advice about my most recent inquiry about whether or not it would be a good idea to conceive prior to my wedding day–you ladies rock, and I am very grateful!
Moving along, I have a unique and stressful situation I’m facing and I’m not sure what to do. I’m going to try not to make this too long, but it’s important to know the details to fully understand the situation.
I have two Godfathers–one of them is my official appointed Godfather, my Uncle Jim, and the other one is my proxy, my Uncle Steve. (In other words…Jimmy was supposed to be the one to hold me during my baptism as an infant,but he couldn’t be present during the ceremony so my Uncle Steve stood in his place.)
My grandfather, whom I was extremely close to, passed away from colon cancer in January 2012. Most daughters dream of the day where they share their first special dance with their fathers, but in my case, it was always sharing a dance with my grandfather, who is no longer with me.
In lieu of my grandfather, I’ve opted to share a special dance in my grandma and Poppy’s memory. (“Through The Years” by Kenny Rogers–that was my Gram and Pop’s anniversary song.)
Unfortunately, my uncles had a ginormous falling-out on Christmas Eve. My two Godfathers got into a screaming match because my younger cousin, who is a heroin addict, was caught shooting up drugs in my deceased grandfather’s house as well as stealing credit card information from my aunt who still lives in that house. Jimmy told Steve that my cousin was not welcome in my grandfather’s house anymore, for Christmas or any other reason, and they had some very, VERY nasty and unforgivable words towards each other. It ended with my uncle Steve disowning Jimmy as his brother, and they haven’t spoken since.
I don’t know what to do. I love the two of them immensely, but if they don’t make up before my wedding day, what am I going to do when it comes time to do the dance?!
If anyone has any suggestions for me, it would be greatly appreciated. I just can’t think of two more appropriate people to stand in for my grandfather other than them.