- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
Posting here mostly to vent but also to ask some advice…what would you do if you were me?! Let me start by saying that I LOVE my job in every way…I just started in January and I love it and the people. That being said, it’s been only 3 months and I’m already going crazy because of a person I have to sit near. I work in an open concept space….so no individual offices or even cublices, just a bunch of desks together in the same room. There are six of us in the room. Four people are totally fine, quiet workers and one is just…not. I sit the closest to him than anyone. He’s a nice enough guy but there are so many things that he does that I can’t not notice/ignore anymore.
He has some sort of breathing issue that causes him to “sniff” constantly. Quick, sharp sniffs through one nostril, all day long. It never stops unless he’s speaking. I know he can’t do anything about it (or maybe he could with some medication but chooses not to, I’m not sure and it’s none of my business) but it’s like listening to someone sniffle with a cold, all day every day.
He also eats at his lunch at his desk every day, and 8/10 times his food is very strong smelling. I also eat lunch at my desk most days, but I’m more of a sandwhich or salad kind of person, so I don’t bring foods that would “disrupt” anyone. One time he brought fish, and I asked him to leave because the smell of seafood makes me nauseous, and he did, but he was back the next day with a smelly chicken dish. Plus, he eats at 10:30-11 in the morning. If he was eating when everyone else was, it wouldn’t be a problem because I could just leave and take my lunch break, but he eats way earlier than everyone else and frankly I’m not hungry at 10:30 in the morning.
The way he eats is also very unappealing. His fork is always hitting the bottom of the plate or the glass container he brings his food in. I can always hear the fork scraping against his teeth when he is eating, and he chews with his mouth open so I can hear his lips smacking together and the sound of him chewing. He also slurps his coffee and literally says “ahhh” sometimes. It is really hard to listen to him eat while trying to work. <br />Also, people often in bring in donuts, and he will usually eat four or five of them which is gross in itself…but he will also eat them all slowly…making all kinds of gross mouth sounds…and he will finish by licking his fingers. Even though he’s been touching his dirty mouse and keyboard all day at his desk. Just typing it makes me shudder!
All gross personal habits asside, his general office etiquette is just…disruptive. He always calls people and lets it ring on speakerphone at top volume, then as soon as the person answers he picks up the phone. Then when he does get someone on the phone, he uses his outside voice throughout the phone call. <br />He also spends much of the day texting, and leaves his cell phone on the desk to vibrate on the hard surface…over and over and over. He also makes himself iced tea using powder in a plastic bottle, and he will sit at his desk and shake the bottle constantly.
There’s more but these are the everyday things. I spend most of the day with my headphones in playing music…but to drown out the sniffing it has to be quite loud due to how close I sit to him. We are allowed to wear headphones, but at the same time my music is so loud that I can’t hear my other coworkers when they’re trying to talk to me. It’s becoming the running joke that I’m always “zoned out” and that people have to wave their hands in front of my face to get my attention. I don’t want to come across as being anti-social or disengaed but I can’t get any work done when I can hear him sniffing or slurping or chewing or shaking his water bottle or whatever it may be ALL DAY.
Has anyone else dealt with something like this? What did you do? Is there anything I can even do besides leave the headphones in?
- This topic was modified 5 years, 3 months ago by ashtonia.