(Closed) Sharing baby name or keeping it secret

posted 9 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Are you sharing the baby's name or keeping it secret?
    We are telling people the name : (35 votes)
    35 %
    We are waiting to tell until after baby is born : (66 votes)
    65 %
  • Post # 17
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    @elliestan: “Team Green” means that you aren’t finding out the baby’s gender until he/she is born. 

    Post # 18
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    9816 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    We waited until she was born, because I didn’t want to hear any suggestions or negative comments, especially from my parents. But they now say they can’t imagine her having any other name.

    Post # 19
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    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Most of my friends are having babies right now, and almost all of them have chosen to keep the name a secret until the baby is born. The rationale I’ve heard ranges from not wanting to hear criticisms of (or comments on) the name ahead of time (people are much less likely to say, “Oh, I had a dog named Kayla once!” after the baby is born for some reason…), to wanting the freedom to change their mind at the last minute, because at least one couple admitted that they had settled on a name early on but once they met their daughter, it just didn’t fit her and they went another direction.

    One couple wanted to keep it a secret, but the husband was so funny, he would forget and accidently use the baby’s name at least once a week with people. Every time he’d get all freaked out, like, “Oh my gosh! don’t tell my wife! You didn’t hear that!” hahaha…fortunately his wife is super laid back and just laughed at it. She knows her husband well. 🙂

    Post # 20
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    264 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I think the best response if you don’t want to share is “We haven’t decided yet” (even if you have). In my experience “we’re keeping it a SECRET” can come off the wrong way and make people feel badly for asking, when in most cases they are just trying to make polite conversation.

    Of couse, people may press you to share the names you are considering, in which case I’d say “we’re still considering quite a few options, do you have any favorites?” That way it turns it around on them, and all you have to do is nod and smile. 🙂

    Post # 21
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @HannahT

    I totally agree. I completely understand why anyone wouldn’t want to say but the explanation, we’re keeping it a secret, I think does have the potential to come off the wrong way.

    Post # 22
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    5110 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We told everyone the name of the baby before he was born.

    Post # 23
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    1962 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’m not TTC, but I wanted to mention that most of my family keeps the name a secret until the baby is born. For some reason we have issues with name stealing in my family. For instance, my Aunt used to tell my Grandmother what she wanted to name each of her girls and my Aunt’s cousin heard it through the grapevine. The cousin tended to get pregnant shortly after my Aunt and would always want to name her baby the same thing that my Aunt picked out if she had a girl. The cousin had all boys so that didn’t end up being a problem. 

    Post # 24
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m not pregnant, but I think that when I am I’ll keep it a secret. I’m sure it will drive FI’s family insane, because you knew his sister’s baby names before she was married even and you knew she was pregnant the day she got her BFP. I will not be revealing either thing until much later, it’s just what we prefer. I don’t have any names picked out, I think it’s a horrible idea to pick out a name before you’re pregnant because inevitably someone will name their child or pet that name and you’ll be furious that they ‘stole’ your name.

    Post # 25
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @HannahT: I totally agree, that is how we are playing it. We do not know the name yet. We have like narrowed down to 3 names but we both really really like one certain name and more than likely will go with that. But I just answer we haven’t decided on a name yet when asked

    Post # 26
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    KEEP IT TO YOURSELF!. My fiance and i agreed to name our child after his middle name years ago. Although i am not pregnant my sisiter knew that what we were naming our child if it was a boy and she decided to get herself pregnant and steal the name! MY OWN SISTER! i really was truly devistated. it was a vety Malicious thing for her to do and that is what hurt me the most!.

    Post # 27
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    9028 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I would not tell anyone the name until after the birth

    Post # 28
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    3997 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I really, really wanted to keep her name a secret. But once we decided what it would be I wasn’t able to lie to all the people asking us.  Not that I’d really classify that as a lie, but it was too tough for me to say that we weren’t telling anyone yet or that we hadn’t named her yet.  I do think it’s kinda fun to not tell anyone until they’re born though. 

    Post # 29
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    264 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    As a side note, I think it’s generally a good policy not to ask what people are naming their baby. If the parents-to-be want it to be public, you will know without asking.

    Post # 30
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    857 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We told family. Friends asked, but I just didn’t want to tell them. Since the baby will be a boy, we are pretty definite on his name, so everyone kind of knew. However, I think we will try to keep it a secret next time.

    Post # 31
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    We made the mistake of telling people with our first son.

    Not everyone is going to agree with your name 100%, and believe me, if they don’t like it before the baby is born, they will let you know. It’s so rude!

    With our second, we didn’t tell anyone.. and we didn’t hear one word about the name.

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