Post # 31
I think my “friend” sharing photos of his son’s explosive poop was a step too far. And I do worry that there will be some sort of court case in 10-20 years about impeding the human rights of children or something. After all once it’s online it’s always online.
Post # 32
I try to space out when I post photos of my kid. I know that only a handful of people care. Also, I get annoyed with people who daily update on their pregnancy and babies. I do text my Mother-In-Law and Mom photos all the time but they love it. The people I went to high school with could careless.
Post # 33
My sister is professional photographer and she takes the most beautiful photos of my 6 month old neice. She only shares a few of them on social media every few weeks. We have a private group chat which includes some immediate family and she post pics of my neice daily. which I love because I live in another state and I get to see my neice everyday. I know other people don’t care to see her daily lol.
Post # 34
I do sometimes get annoyed with people who only partially share pics of their kids. Like they will block out a face or only show the back of their head. I don’t know why this bothers me so much lol. Like Id rather no photo at all! lol. I want to see the babies face!
Post # 35
As I’ve already spoken about I do not share any photos of my son on SM. We didn’t do a pregnancy or birth announcement either. We also never use his name on social media. If we post about him we call him Little Boy. There are many reasons why – in no particular order;
1) my husband hates FB, he thinks it’s a massive ego trip. He doesn’t have an account.
2) I strongly feel that my son has a right to privacy. He hasn’t said I can share his photo with the world and until he does I won’t.
3) it’s for his safety. I’ve use baby photos of me as a profile pic before (I have a closed profile with just name and pic visible) and whenever I do I go from having 0 random friend requests to 3-4 a week! That scares me that there are people out there looking for profiles to do with kids
4) we really struggled to get pregnant. For over 2 years I found seeing pregnancy announcements or huge amounts of daily baby photos seriously hard. It really was a knife to my heart. I remember that awful motherhood challenge which was just horrific for anyone CF not by choice. We know some friends were / are struggling with infertility and we don’t want them to feel like we did.
5) I’d like to show by example how to use SM safely. I hope as he grows up he will see that we don’t post him and he will start to understand why.
We don’t give any consent for nursery / school / baby groups etc to take his photo or use his image for their websites / social media.
for family who don’t live near us we either email a cute photo (I do this a lot for my parents) or we take an ‘official’ photo for birthdays / Christmas and print it out to include in thank you / Christmas cards.
Our friends and family know how we feel and so don’t post any pictures of him. We have had issues with some other parents who don’t understand why or feel we are over reacting but in the main people are respectful.
Currently in the UK they are debating a law that would mean people can permanently delete any photo of them posted before they were 18. The NSPCC recently did some research that showed that a good chunk of primary school children were embarrassed by what their parents post online and wish they wouldn’t.
schools are also calling for parents to talk to children about safe social media use much earlier (around age 10) I wonder what over share parents will say to their children about this? How can you say ‘don’t post inappropriate pictures it’s not safe’ if they have posted 50 pics of them in the bath?
Post # 36
I think I’d love posting pictures of my future kid’s milestones. Birthdays included (but wouldn’t include other kids – refrencing that other post) cute vacation photos, holidays, etc. Definitely NO naked pictures or embarassing ones though.
Post # 37
emmabird : We do not upload any photos of our children up. Nothing against people who do we want our children to make that choice though. But then again I really don’t have much of myself on social media anyway
Post # 38
everythingpink : hahaha I feel like that! I think it reminds me too much of ‘celebs’, as if they are trying to tease you and to me it feels like they feel self important if that makes sense.
Like the odd picture like that sure but if you never show their face and only show hands or feet or back of head…
Maybe its just because people like the kardashians or cheryl Cole or tweedy or w.e does it.
Post # 39
- Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise
My daughter was born in 1999 and we had a digital camera when that was still pretty unusual. I was super active on Babycenter through my pregnancy and put of photos of my delivery just a few hours after she was out; I have essentially been posting photos of her since she was born.
I never posted anything with her in ANY stage of undress. There are creeps. No matter my intentions or how innocent the intent of the photo, people scrape the web for stuff like that and use it to other ends.
I also never used her name. She’s had a nickname since she was very small and whenever I posted about her, either in photos or via my blog, I ALWAYS used her nickname. Now that she in an adult and can consent, I occasionally use her name, but for the most part, still use the nickname.
I felt like it wasn’t my place to create a social media/internet presence on her behalf Like her credit score, I felt like it was something she should be completely in charge of, and have the opportunity to create for herself.
We’ve talked about it and she has said she appreciated my stance on the issue. If you google her by name there are no photos of her anywhere that she didn’t post herself. Her internet presence has been curated by her, and not influenced by anything I have chosen for her.
I think posting photos is fine. I think protecting your child’s identity is important, and that keeping demographic details off the internet is the much more important step that people overlook.
Post # 40
I am sooooooo glad SM wasn’t around when I was younger. Plus, it’s easy to say you won’t post embarrassing ones…but we don’t know what photos will embarrass them, particularly because fashion changes!!
I turned 30 last week and my best friend I have known since I was 5 tagged me an old school photo saying ‘happy birthday to this big kid’….my first thought was ‘What the hell did my mum put me in?’ but in her defense she says that was the fashion back then. Awful! Haha.
Post # 41
Twizbe : I agree and I think its strong of you that you stand your ground.
Post # 42
LilliV : Have you heard of kidnapping? Not all kids are signed out with IDs or known relatives. Some walk home and someone could recognize your child and call them by name and all since it’s plastered on SM. They can also walk right up and pick a kid up who is waiting out front which is common for a lot of schools.
Post # 43
ladyartichoke : I had a friend who did something similar. She literally posts pics of herself, her bf, and her 3 year old daughter EVERY SINGLE EFFIN DAY. She started potty training her and posted her first toilet full of shit pic on instagram and I was like wait whaaaat? Do adults shit and take pics next to it for all to see? That was so bizarre to me. It made me cringe. I also have several friends who have posted their nakes baby and it does bother me that they don’t give their child any privacy. But to each their own. It’s definitely not for me and I don’t have kids yet but will not do things like that. I rarely post pics of myself or Darling Husband as it is. I may post 1 pic every month or two months. I even had a friend tell me she misses seeing me because I dont post a lot. 😑
Post # 44
DoubleD : of course I have, but that’s what privacy settings are for. Most kidnappings are done by people who know the child in real life. If you have access to see my posts about my daughter then you have also met her in real life (or hopefully will soon if you live far away). Strangers are more likely to find out a child’s name from a personalized backpack (which I will never give my kid) than my social media posts.
Post # 45
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
emmabird : My husband and I have discussed this and we don’t plan to go overboard when the time comes. We have plenty of ways to share pictures with our loved ones that don’t involve sharing with everyone online. I know we’ll be over the moon in love with our future babies, but I’m not naive enough to think that anyone aside from maybe our parents will want to see new pictures every minute/hour/day.
I think people cross the line and overshare when it comes to babies and children. For example, I wouldn’t ever put a picture of my naked newborn or baby (or child) in the bathtub online for the world to see, yet I see it on social media all the time. My Brother-In-Law and SIL have a nanny who overposts – there are multiple videos and pictures of the kids on FB every single day. As much as we love seeing the kids’ pictures and miss them (we live in different states and only get together for holidays), I think it’s excessive and leaving a major digital footprint that these kids may not even want to have when they’re older.