Post # 1
Hey bees….so it’s been awhile since I’ve been on and I have def. missed it. So Darling Husband and I are having a disagreement on something that I wonder if you all have with your DH’s. We have a daughter and every Christmas we spend Christmas Eve with his family and Christmas Day with mine, ok fine, now the question is how do we split Thanksgiving? I always help my mom cook and I make dessert and everything seemed fine, not to mention his mother says every year ahh I’m just doing something small if you guys want to come by or not. So I figure why take away from helping my mom to go there. I know this may sound selfish but this is my favorite holiday and I also have never kept Darling Husband or my daughter from going there to spend time with his family while I cooked. So this year he wants to go there or split the day, but I have no idea what a good solution is to this, what do you bees do for the holidays??
Post # 3
For Thanksgiving we usually split the day, sometimes this involved going to three different places. Christmas Eve is when we usually have a problem: His family always has a big party and my family goes to my parents and we watch Christmas movies and make s’mores. Christmas day we do a lot of traveling; first my parents, then one set of grandparents, then his family, other set of grandparents, and finally our house.
Post # 4
To avoid all the holiday who’s where business, we host everyone at our house. Really, it’s easier for me to make a turkey or two than to drive to everyone else’s houses on Christmas day. Same goes for Thanksgiving. Let the world come to your doorstep, it’s SO much easier!!! Plus the mom’s like the “passing of the torch” and letting the next generation do the work 😉
Post # 5
@reina wow that’s a lot of traveling, but you do what you have to do to try and make everyone happy….I feel like that’s how it’s going to be for Thanksgiving this year.
@bakerella I would love to host, but we are in the process of getting a house and don’t have the room right now, I’m hoping my mom would love to pass the tradition onto me, not sure how everyone else would feel about it, but when we get a house I will def. be extending the offer it would make it so much easier esp with kids, thanks 🙂
Post # 6
My sister alternates years between my parents and her in laws. So one set of parents gets Christmas dinner, the other gets Boxing Day. It works out well for them, except that I think my mom often feels pressured to have a Christmas dinner proper on Christmas day and then another on Boxing Day if that’s when my sister is coming.
My sister’s in-law’s side of the family sometimes does Christmas in July instead of December to avoid everyone’s scheduling conflicts and so the kids can have fun twice a year 😉 They seem to enjoy that.
Post # 7
It’s pretty easy for us. My mom has a big party for brunch after the Turkey Trot. Since the day is full of eating there, they don’t do much of a dinner. Just leftovers and a frozen turkey. We go to my hubby’s house for dinner b/c they do the actual full meal.
Just so you know, when we asked my mil who was coming to dinner this year, she said “you guys if you want to…” and listed everyone else. I know she doesn’t want us to feel pressured to go which is why she added “if you want to,” but I also know she’d be very upset if we didn’t go.
Post # 8
We have been splitting the holidays, since we were dating. This will be our first holiday married and we are doing the same.
Post # 9
We split the day on Christmas and spend Thanksgiving with one side and go to the other that weekend.
Post # 10
We do Christmas Eve and Christmas brunch w/ my family and go to his parents house for Christmas dinner.
I do not care to go to my IL’s house, so Darling Husband will go over there on Thanksgiving by himself. And if I do go w/ him, my family usually eats by 2 so we’re still able to go to his parents for a late dinner or dessert.
Post # 11
Could you do dinner at one place and dessert at another?