Post # 1
I need some advice I don’t know if I am over reacting or what. My fiance and I were planning to have a civil wedding ceremony during Easter weekend since my dad was coming from out of town. I told my mom about this and the first thing that came out of her mouth is your brother and his girl friend should get married that same day also. I was lost for words. I mean they have not talked about wedding plans or anything to me they are really not engaged bc they were engaged broke up for about 1yr now have been back together for about 1yr, but never anounced that they were engaged. I don’t see why I should share my day with them. My mother kept pushing the idea until I finally told her I was not going to get married Easter weekend and they could do what ever they want. Now I hear from my brother that they are actualy going through with it and are getting married Easter Sunday. Do I have the right to be upset and mad?
Post # 2
gabby1985 : Yes, that’s really rude of your mom. If I were you, I’d elope and not tell anyone beforehand and just come back to let them know. You have every right to want your wedding day to be special and for you and your husband only.
Post # 3
I would be pissed, but the upside is that the next date you pick she can’t do the same thing again because they are already married. Did they finally say yes because you said nevermind to that date? Maybe he wasn’t going to go through with it until you declined. However, having a crazy mother myself, my sister and I discuss everything with each other to make sure of the plans and such. Your brother should have talked to you (or you should have talked to him) I’m sure he would have understood and declined the duo wedding if you expressed that you were not down.
Post # 4
I’m trying to put myself in your shoes, and I can definitely see where you’re coming from. But, personally, I wouldn’t really be mad since I actually think it would have been fun to get married at the same time my sister did. I wouldn’t think of it as sharing MY day, but as doubling the fun.
But you have a right to feel what you feel!
Is there another day when your dad will be in town that you can plan for?