(Closed) She badmouthed me and now she wants me to attend her shower. Ugh

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
1402 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I would go ahead and text the RSVP (wtf) and send a card, but I would not waste any money on such a rude, greedy person.

Post # 4
3553 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I would just RSVP and leave it at that. If you’re feeling generous, send a card when the baby is born.

Post # 5
1722 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I wouldn’t send a gift. Her shower is obviously a gift grab and she clearly does not like you so why go out of your way for her? RSVP no and be done with it, maybe send a card if you want but I wouldn’t.

Post # 6
4371 posts
Honey bee

I would post her Facebook conversation on STFUParents. 




Post # 7
869 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Just RSVP and leave it at that.  No need to spend your money on a person like that

Post # 8
98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

She is fishing for additional gifts! Send a nice card! With no gift. 

Post # 9
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@alyssaC:  +1 I would RSVP no and not send her a thing. If I was feeling particularly vengeful I’d put that conversation she had on facebook on blast.

But taking the high road also has its benefits.

Post # 10
2250 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wowza. I would RSVP no, and send a best wishes card (at most).

Post # 11
46406 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would respond that I was unable to attend and wish her and the baby well.

On a bad day, my passive aggressive self would buy the ugliest thing I could find at some craft sale, something that couldn’t be returned for cash, and sent it to her.

Post # 12
1657 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Yeah I would not send a gift. It just seems like a gift grab.

Post # 13
1164 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@TexasSpringBride:  because she is family, and was a live-in nanny for your family for a while, if you can financially afford to, I’d get a small gift for the child (e.g. some onesies and bibs, a receiving blanket)…the child shouldn’t suffer because the mother has no manners.


Post # 14
1011 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@TexasSpringBride:  I agree with the previous posters–send your RSVP’d “no” and leave it at that. You’re not obligated to send her anything whatsoever, especially considering her behavior regarding you.

And definitely post that chat log on that website! LOL Wink

Post # 15
1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mrs-to-be-2014:  I doubt the child is going to suffer because OP didn’t send a gift.  The kid is more likely going to suffer because of her mom’s character.  

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