(Closed) she blew me off… vent

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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5823 posts
Bee Keeper

Yikes!  Well I guess I would call her and make sure she knows the DAY, date, and time of your wedding!  It’s this coming weekend, so hopefully she doesn’t flake.  Try not to sound angry when you call, just sound concerned.  I know that would be hard though since she flaked…good luck!

Post # 5
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2641 posts
Sugar bee

It doesn’t quite add up for me.  Is she always flaky?  It seems like she was trying to avoid something.  But was it really that she couldn’t go to the party?  Is she having money troubles?  A controlling bf who wouldn’t let her go?  Did she have a fight with the MOH?  Maybe there was a spat in planning the event, and it cost more than she can afford?

I guess I could go on, but it just seems kind of a goofy way of acting if she didn’t want to or couldn’t go. 

Maybe try clamly talking to her and asking her if there is something going on. Good luck.

Post # 6
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142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

wow Brittanymichelle im sorry you are going through this with one of your maids, try abd put your anger aside and talk with her. If she continues to act this way I would suggests having a backup plan. I hope she doesn’t show for the wedding and not be that inconsiderate. Best of luck.

Post # 7
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4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ah, she sounds difficult!  I’d keep trying to speak to her, if you can’t reach her, leave messages saying what you want to say.  I really hope she doesn’t no show to the wedding!

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Do you think she is jealous because you are getting married?  I have been in bridal parties where some bridesmaids think it should be all about them.  I don’t get that!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh my goodness, is your Bridesmaid or Best Man best friends with my Maid/Matron of Honor, because the sound like the exact same person! My Maid/Matron of Honor has been super flaky about EVERYTHING. Quite frankly I was surprised she even got it together enough to buy a plane ticket for my wedding. But same deal, you make plans with her, then she doesn’t answer her phone, texts, emails, facebook, whatever. It’s truly infuriating. Since you said she was super available to you before, I think you  just need to call her on her behavior. I already tried the “concerned friend” approach with my Maid/Matron of Honor, but really they just see it as you validating their excuses and they end up doing it again.

Say something like “I have really appreciated that you have been a good friend and Bridesmaid or Best Man helping me with the wedding, but in the past month or so you seem distracted and harder to get a hold of. Is something up??”

Good luck!

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