(Closed) She bought my dress.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Did she know it was the exact same dress at the time? Maybe she just thought they were similar. I personally wouldn’t want to wear a dress half my guests just saw on my SIL a few months prior.

 

Post # 18
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509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2002

I don’t see the big deal in this. She obviously loved your dress!!

Post # 19
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7605 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I can’t imagine getting upset about this.  Hope it all works out!

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Roe:  as Roe said.. she wore it first.  Maybe some of the women will remember it was the same dress… MAYBE… but none of the men will.  I’d only be pissed if she bought it and moved her wedding up before yours.

Post # 21
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Bumble Beekeeper

@MissNoodles:  I’d be pissed if that happened, too, but the OP’s wedding was months ago.  She’s already worn hers!

Post # 22
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1148 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Whoa. Thirfty me would have just asked you if i could have it so i would save a thousand bucks. 

 

Post # 23
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1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

It’s a weird thing for her to do, but I don’t see how it’s worth getting upset over. I think it’s kind of funny, actually. I’d feel bad for her lack of style identity.

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Even though, deep down, we know that there are other brides out there wearing the same dress as us…. we typically don’t know them so it makes it easy for us to feel unique in the dress. Now, while I recognize that it is actually the person in the dress that makes it unique and beautiful – not the dress itself – obviously her wedding dress was important to her and she has the right to feel upset at first. But hopefully in time she can let it be what it is. And just because her wedding was months ago it shouldn’t nullify her feelings right now. This should be a safe place for her to vent. She needs time to adjust to this news that she wasn’t expecting.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee

I guess I’m also with some folks. Why is this weird or annoying and why exactly are you so upset? You wore it first. I mean, some friends borrow each other’s wedding dresses. I wore a veil that half my friends have worn before because it is such a gorgeous veil. I guarantee that most folks will not even remember your exact dress and even if they did, so what? Most of us like to think we are unique but there is someone out there running around with our exact same pair of gap/express jeans and that exact same ‘one of a kind’ blouse bought from that boutique no one knows about. You wore your dress, you were happy. Don’t rain on her parade OR let this stress you out.

 

*Not that I think you will but bitching about this to your husband or any friend and then it gets to her will cause hurt feelings. Just pointing that out.

Post # 26
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329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m willing to bet no one will notice.

Post # 27
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241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2004

I also kind of agree that it is a non-issue.  She is probably not even giving two thoughts to the fact that you also wore a similar or even exactly the same dress.  Every bride is completely focused on their wedding.  And, even if she is copying you, we all wear a dress that has been worn by some bride somewhere else.  These things happen.  I am sure you were a lovely, stunning bride and your guests and husband appreciated your.  The same way she deserves to be lovely and stunning.  Don’t let this become a thing.  It is just a dress.
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But saying the above, I do understand that it could be upsetting.  Try to rather see it as a compliment.  I had the wife of a close male friend of mine copying my weddingdress and she even asked to borrow my shawl because it “matched her dress so perfectly”.  In fact, if my dress wasn’t two sizes too small for her, she would have borrowed that as well.  She also attended my wedding and I saw it as a compliment that she was WOWED by my dress and fell in love with it.  I can guarantee you that she won’t look the same in the dress that you did.  Each woman is a spectacular bride in her own way, regardless of the dress or accessories

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

She knew she loved what you wore, but kept trying to find something she loved more, unfortunately she didn’t. No one but you will notice, and if they do i doubt anyone would say anything. If you’re the same body type then maybe there’s a reason you both went for that dress, chill out your day is over and done, let her have hers. Wedding dresses aren’t typically one of a kind things.

Post # 29
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

How can you be upstaged when you already had your wedding? She’s the one who is going to look a bit dumb not you.  I doubt anyone will really even notice.

Post # 30
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Sugar bee

Eh, there’s a really good chance no one is even going to remember. And even if they notice they’re similar styles they might not even pick up on the fact that it’s the same one.

Correction: there are overwhelming odds they simply won’t even notice. And even if they did, this isn’t E!. You’re not an A list celebrity walking the red carpet. They won’t comment on “who wore it best.” They’re gonna eat their free food, party and leave. Don’t even think about it, not worth your time.

Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’s weird, and I’d be irked too. But you wore it first, and I suppose imitation is the best form of flattery. She will look the strange one if guests realise, not you.

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