Post # 1
I recently sent out the Save the Dates and my guest list is shrinking already.
First off, my paternal grand-parents will likely not be there due to their age. It’s 3 hours away and they are 86, so I think I can understand that…
It’s my step-sister 🙁
Her dad and my mom have been together for many years and I consider her very dear to me.
She has had a few engagements, her last one was going to lead to a destination wedding which I was 100% commited to going.
She currently lives in Alberta and we are in Ontario. Last Christmas she didn’t come down and the reason was because she wanted to wait and make the trip for the wedding instead. Cool.
Now she is telling my mom that she isn’t coming because of work…
Honestly, I am pretty disappointed. I almost asked her to be a bridesmaid… Why couldn’t she just call me and tell me herself? Is she even going to bother RSVP-ing after she recieves an invite?
She often bails after making plans with my sister and I, but I seriously imagined her being present on my big day… It turns out that she lied to her dad about her love life in order to ”borrow” (she never pays her dad’s ”loans” back) money to move to Alberta, where her new boyfriend lives.
Ugh, vent done.
Post # 4
Oh my. I’d initiate a conversation with her myself. I don’t mean any offense, but when you said that she’s had a few previous engagements, it struck me as very flaky (although it may have been out of her control that they ended). But then you also said that she bails on plans with you and your sister, too. So yeah, just try being direct with her about it, and don’t expect much out of her.
Post # 5
Why don’t you wait until RSVP’s are due back in order to find out if she is coming or not? Maybe right now, this minute, it would be because of work. Maybe iot will be because of something else later, but unfortunately if she can’t or doesn’t want to come, she doesn’t have to. I can see why you would be upset about her not telling you herself, but even if she RSVPs no, and you call her to find out why you aren’t going to be satisfied because you want her there.
I don’t know why you added about her borrowing money and what not if not to confirm that she tends to bail on commitments she has made to others. If that is the case you shouldn’t be too suprirsed that she isn’t coming.
Post # 6
@Sb91: Yeah. Thank you for taking the time to respond.
@megz06: I know… I don’t know why but I am still surprised everytime…