- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015 - The Runnymede Hotel
Backstory: A girl I have been very good friends with for over six years got engaged to her Fiance whenwe were still at Uni, studying. He lives in America so I understand the rush to get married… they’ve basically had a skype relationship the whole time as they met online. I was so happy for her, and she immediatly asked me to be her Maid/Matron of Honor (over here we call it Chief Bridesmaid, but as the wedding was going to be Stateside, she was calling it MOH). I was honoured, and offered my assistance with anything she needed – Hen do, crafts/DIY, dress shoppng, you name it. I bought her a nice engagement gift and we went bridesmaid dress shopping a few times.
A few months later, I have graduated and moved to London with my Boyfriend or Best Friend (we are both from a London suburb, so it’s not a huge distance). I text her, email her and facebook her a couple of times, but get no response. When I finally get a catch up phonecall, I of course ask about the wedding/hen night plans. She tells me that she’s so excited, because a girl she met in the US when she was visiting her Fiance has agreed to be her Maid/Matron of Honor and plan her ‘Bachelorette’! She then hurriedly says it’s such a shame I won’t be able to make it to the wedding.
I was really, really hurt. I had been saving money and planning for the trip to celebrate her wedding with her, and had never said I wouldn’t be able to make it. They’ve still not got married (after almost three years) as they are saving and having Visa issues.
Flash forward to now. My boyfriend proposed on Friday, and we have been discreetly telling a small group of close friends before blurting anythng out on social media. I dropped her a text, as she didn’t answer her phone. She sent back a long, very sweet, excited text, telling me how happy she was for us. And that she couldn’t wait to be a bridesmaid!
Obviously it’s so early on now, I haven’t even thought about who’s in the wedding party. But she really hurt my feelings, and i don’t want her in it! I know that this will come up again over the next few months – how do I tell her??
Phew, sorry about the essay!