She had an affair, a year before our wedding! Should I still marry her ?

posted 1 year ago in Relationships
  • poll: Should I forgive her
    yes : (3 votes)
    2 %
    no : (190 votes)
    98 %
  • Post # 61
    1891 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Oh man. Yeah this woman is garbage. I can’t believe she actually planned out a trip to cheat. You caught her and then she STILL DID IT! wow, she is doing this to you because you are letting her. She knows she can take advantage of you so she does.  

    If you really can’t bring yourself to end it at least Inist that you two go to couples therapy together. She needs to be able to tell you why she did it. Only a therapist can help get to the bottom of what’s going on.

    i recommend you leave her ASAP. Tomorrow. She is complete trash. You deserve so much better than that. There are plenty of women out there who are kind and loyal. Kick her to the curb and don’t look back. Trust us when we say she isn’t going to stop. She will ditch you the second anything in the relationship gets hard. It’s only a matter of time before she crushes you and leaves. So please leave her before she does more damage to you. 

    Post # 62
    7 posts


    Seems like she will always do this of crap behind your back and she planned the whole thing!  You deserve better, someone who will appreacite you for what you are and what you have.  I understand it’s difficult to move on and because you invested so much time together but that doesn’t justify the pain and agony your carry bro.  You deserve better… far much better! 


    Much love and peace to you bro



    Post # 63
    38 posts

    So sorry to hear about your situation and the pain you are dealing with. It’s such a betrayal. Sounds like you’ve sacraficed a lot for her, moving overseas and leaving everything you had behind. 

    When a situation like this comes up, it reminds me of what David Bekham said about his marriage with Victoria. He said that they are best friends, and if you’re best friends, you would never want to do anything to hurt the other person. That kind of love is rooted in respect and sincerity. In other words, I don’t know if her heart is 100% in it with you!

    Hang in there buddy.

    Post # 64
    371 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    You do not deserve to be treated this way.  Please save yourself a possible whole life of heartbreak and do not marry her. 

    Post # 65
    33 posts

    Thanks god, you found out before you marry her. Break up now is much better than divorce later. Move on, you will find your Mrs right. 

    Post # 66
    754 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2018 - City, State

    tospa10260 :  Actions > Words

    She is correct though, you ARE better than the other guy coz he is also a cheater. And you don’t deserve this pathetic excuse of a partner. I can’t believe she got caught and then replanned it anyway! You just don’t do that to someone you truly love. You wouldnt do it and you deserve someone with your same standards!

    Post # 67
    754 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2018 - City, State

    Double Post.

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