(Closed) She had to outdo me …

posted 9 years ago in DIY
Post # 3
327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Holy Family Catholic Church, reception: National Infantry Museum

That sucks, but your invite is so adorable!  I love it! 

Post # 4
37 posts

not to be a brat, but i think you should post hers anyway because she didn’t respect you very much. that said, yours is adorable! i really like it πŸ™‚

Post # 5
28 posts
  • Wedding: October 2009

I am a professional Graphic Designer and frankly I think all stuff she said is crap.  I have done many friends wedding, shower and baby annoucements. I would never do that to a friend or even a freelance client.  Sounds like she is just bent out of shape becaue you had your own ideas for your invites. Some artists are a pain in the butt like that.  It’s not really feasible to work like that in the professional world. 

 Keep yours!!! I agree with your fiance. Do not give her the satisfaction of thinking she was justified in her behavior.  She is acting like a baby.  Yours are cute and they have special meaning because you made them.  When you look at them you will always think of the time and effort and love that went into them.

I like yours better no matter what hers look like. 

And by the way if you contributed to pieces of a project (i work with large teams on graphics) they are fair game to use in your portofolio.  Everyone knows whern you go for interviews that you had writers, art directors, illustrators and various team members working on a campaign.

Post # 6
3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Wow… that’s extremely selfish of her. Your BM also has a poor attitude. I understand that in her type of business copying can be an issue, but watermark it! She also missed out on a business opportunity. What if one of the brides looooved her designs & sent you a message asking for her information?

I’m a firm believer in sharing your work.

Look at Martha Stewart. Her whole empire was built on sharing her recipes & tips! Had she kept it all a secret, she wouldn’t have ever become such a success. As a small business owner where my recipes are my income, I remind myself of her story and I’ve completely changed my attitude towards "copying". I’m even considering writing my own cookbook πŸ™‚

Post # 7
181 posts
Blushing bee

This is a bridesmaid? Wow. Sounds to me like you need to have a serious talk with her and quick. If she’s acting this way about something like an invite, I can only imagine what else she’ll decide to go "bridesmaidzilla" on. Geez.

And I agree with CC. Your invite is super cute!

Post # 8
5950 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think yours is adorable and totally unique and memorable.  I think it’s really really awesome.  

Plus the other invite was made in spite, so that’s kind of bad karma-y.

Post # 9
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

what do you want to do????  its your wedding and your emotions so go with what makes you happiest and makes you feel good about yourself and your wedding

i dont like how you wrote you begged her to help and she refused and then afterwards showed you. if a friend asks for help a good friend will respond in kind  and do what they can without being a drama queen about it

personally i think your invites are cute & personable  – you did them yourself and that earns kudos with me!


Post # 11
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Engaged, I REALLY like your invite. I haven’t seen hers so I can’t compare them, but I think yours is adorable and I really love that *you* made it, and so will your guests. I say go with it!

Post # 13
1023 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Um, I think your invitation is awesome! Stick to yours! Both because its AMAZING and out of principle!

Post # 14
17 posts
  • Wedding: August 2009

Awww I’m so sorry. Something sounds amiss – I’m not so sure I would have kept pressing her for help if she pushed back so firmly on it. A ‘no’ can sometimes mean ‘not now’ but her ‘no’ was like ‘Heck no!’ That is odd. Might wanna distance yourself a little. **Hugs**   

Post # 15
676 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I love your invite! Super cute! And, you made it so its special. Your friend’s reaction is really strange, I have no idea what would cause that. I agree with your Fiance though, don’t reprint them on principle. Your friend is being totally ridiculous and unreasonable, I can’t imagine why someone would behave that way.

Post # 16
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think yours is fun and shows a ton of personality! Go with it, and remember that everyone will love it, because you did it! Move on from her negatvitiy, you don’t want that surrounding your big day.

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