Post # 1
So, my mother is buying my younger sister her BM dress for’ my wedding. I recently decided on a style that I really like, and sent pics out to my BM’s to ask them for their approval.
All of them liked it, said it was cute, and were willing to try it on. So I asked for all their measurements. Then, I get an email from my mother saying that I can choose what I want, but that she thinks it is ugly and will look terrible on my sister. Then she went on to bash the model who was wearing it in the photo, saying maybe it only looked bad because she was so “unappealing”.
I am so upset. I wrote an earlier post about how negative my mother has been since I started wedding planning, but the fact that she has no tact and would completely bash my choice before anyone has even tried it on make me want to cry.
So, what do you bees think of this type of style? It is a twisted halter neck silk dress, like this one from jcrew:
All of my BM’s are thin, with small to average busts, tiny waists, and all but one would be a petite size. I think this is a great style for all of them, and my sister herself has not complained, just my mother, who is buying it for her since she a teen.
Post # 3
Ignore her. It’s a dress for a day As long as she is willing to buy it for your sis regardless of her hatred you’re fine. Everyone else dropping dough is fine with it If push comes to shove cut your flower budget or something and get it for your sis.
Weddings bring out the crazy in all of us.
Post # 4
As someone who also has an issue with negativity in the family, you just have to ignore it and do what you want. DO NOT CHANGE THE DRESS SOLELY FOR YOUR MOM. It’ll just set a precedent for her to think she can do whatever she wants to dictate your wedding.
How much does the dress cost? If your mom is sooo against it, then perhaps buy it for your sister. If that isn’t an option, just tell your mom that your sister needs to purchase the dress to be a BM and if she wants to deny your sister this honor over a dress, then that’s on her.
Just stay strong and don’t let your mom’s comments hurt you. It can be a really deep and dark pit otherwise.
Post # 5
@MsBlackberry: It;’s a cute dress, not too sexy for a teen. If she really balks, then offer to simply buy it and hopefully that will put an end to your mom’s protests.
Post # 6
The dress I have picked is $150, so not expensive at all for a BM dress. It is also not green, but would most likely be gray. I did not put the exact dress I picked, just in case someone on here knows me and sees it – I like to stay annonymous.
Post # 7
I think they should realize that this is YOUR day. You could ask them to wear a fuzzy lime green pants suit and they should be happy to do so and support the bride!
You’re not being unreasonable at all. This dress is BEAUTIFUL! I would be happy to wear it. Anyone who is causing a stir about being forced to wear a dress that they don’t like, shouldn’t have agreed to be in your wedding.
This comes with the turf! You’re the bride, what you say goes. And whenever you’re a bridesmaid, it’s your job to swallow your pride and do whatever the bride askes of you. It’s a dress for ONE day, she’ll live if she doesn’t get her way.
Maybe I’m beign too extreme, I just hate to see a bride be pushed around by her wedding party when it’s HER day, not anyone elses!
Post # 8
I think the dress looks lovely. And it’s not your mom’s decision. If your sister has a problem with it, you might want to talk it out with her, but I don’t think you should pick a different dress.
This one is gorgeous!
Post # 9
I suggest you double check with your sister. If she has no problems with it, order it. If your mother refuses to pay, pay for the dress yourself. p.s. I think it’s lovely!