(Closed) She is breaking my heart and I don’t know what to say!

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

Are Leah and Anna your little girls?  How old are they?  I’m sorry you are all going through this.  🙁

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Link might be a virus do not click!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

@yoaglo:  No one open that link! yoaglo has been posting it all over WB, likely a virus.

Please stop posting these .exe links. Flagged.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MrsFuzzyFace:  Hugs to you and Leah. Was this congenital, or did she lose her leg in an accident or through amputation? Either way, with perhaps a little modification for the circumstance, I think you can say just what you said here: “I don’t understand why you don’t, but I am trusting that God has an amazing plan for your life.” She’s a gorgeous child, By The Way.

Edited to add: I just saw the pic with both girls- they are both totally adorable!!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@yoaglo:  Flagged you on this post as well.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I am fed up of @yoaglo and the virus, how do we get this horrible person to go away??? I’m flagging all the messages I can!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MrsFuzzyFace:  I think that this is something you’ll have to approach more and more as she gets older. For example, when she starts school/sports/art lessons/hanging out with other kids, other children will ask her about it–she should be ready to answer their questions in a way she and they can understand. For now, you can explain to her that people are born in all sorts of different ways, but that doesn’t mean they can’t be happy/loved and she is not limited by the lack of 1 leg. But in a year or two (or as her questions develop and get more specific), you might want to start explaining what happened in more detail to her, so that it is something she’s ‘always known’ and doesn’t worry that the details are something you’re ashamed of or don’t want her asking about.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MrsFuzzyFace:  Can you maybe rehearse some things to say to Leah with your husband or a close friend? Then you can have the converation with her, but if you have practiced enough beforehand, maybe you won’t be so emotional about it? I think it is also totally ok to be honest and tell her that you are sad because she is sad about it, but that you are happy to know that she is such a strong, loving, happy, beautiful girl, so you know she will not let the fact that she has one leg define her. Talking about it, even if it involves some tears, may be better than not talking about it, especially as she gets older and notices more that she is “different”.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@MrsFuzzyFace:  I don’t know if you’ve already found this site:

Home

My heart goes to you and your beautiful child! Is it possible to get her involved in a group with other children who share her experience?  Are you in a support group?  Telling her you trust God has a plan for life sounds like a wonderful way to start talking with her about it, as much as you can at this age.  Much love to you. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I am sorry. It tears at my heart to. I haven’t stopped praying for you guys. It might help if she could meet other children with the same condition. Dirty Delete was much more comfortable with her feeding tube after being around many other kids that had them.

I think it is normal for her to wish she had two legs. Dirty Delete wished she never had to have a tube. I spent my childhood wishing I was a boy because I was the only girl in our neighborhood. We all do it. It tears at the heart so much because we as moms wish the very best for our child. But I am quite convinced that having just one leg is the very best for Leah. I don’t understand why yet but I trust my Father. Somehow in the grand scheme of things this is best. But I know you know that. Just keep telling her that God has some pretty amazing plans for her because He gave her an “ability” that most folks don’t have. She will gain a unique perspective that most folks aren’t blessed with. She is a pretty special little girl and I hope you keep posting so we can watch her turn into one amazing woman. 🙂

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