(Closed) She is breaking my heart and I don’t know what to say!

posted 8 years ago in Parenting
Post # 17
7873 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I have no idea if this is is helpful at all: We have an adult family friend who had an amputation and my young daughter was curious about amputees, so I showed her a couple of videos like this one:

I really gave her better perspective about their abilities (not focusing on the dis part).  I know your daughter lives with this everyday, so obviously this is her life experience- and I don’t mean to minimize it.  But I just thought maybe when you talk to her it may help to incorporate one of the videos into your talk- since your daughter is so young and what kid doesn’t love animals?  No doubt, there will be challenges for your daughter and I’m sure you will have to address her questions and sadness.  But she is beautiful and perfect!

Post # 18
148 posts
Blushing bee


Perhaps you could have Anna tell Leah all the things she likes about her? Might be good to know that there are things about Leah that Anna is a little envious of. As others have said, the classic “everyone is different” talk may be warranted in the very near future. I think the best thing is to be honest w/her when she asks questions. It’s hard to find a balance between treating her like everyone else & being supportive & sympathetic to her emotions on the matter. You don’t want her to feel like it hasn’t been addressed, but @ the same time, you don’t want her feeling like you baby her b/c of it. I think you’ll find the proper balance. 🙂

Post # 19
14492 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@MrsFuzzyFace:  Have you done any research into the Shriners Hospital in MN?   They have a great counciling program that helps the parents of children amputees help them deal with the differences and they help you until she is an adult.  One of my moms friends was in a similar situation, but it was an arm.  They were extremely helpful to both the mom and the daughter, plus they were able to get her the newest and the best artifical limbs free of charge. 

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