(Closed) She knows the date I'm going to propose, how to win back surprise?

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: What day should JEdward propose?
    Day before : (26 votes)
    68 %
    On her birthday : (5 votes)
    13 %
    Day after : (7 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
    3785 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Any way you could change the proposal date? Proposing earlier would be a suprise! Are you traveling to China together? If so what about in the airport before you leave? or put it in her carry-on to find or something. I think anything you do will be special and awesome— I love your idea about the gifts! Good luck! And post a pic of the ring!

    Post # 4
    2440 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @JEdward:  Cute proporsal idea!


    How far off is the birthday? If I were you, I’d just muddle up the timeframe you gave her with double speak. Tell her a month or two before hand that you’ll have a surprise for her on x day. Give her some silly, yet loving gift. Throw around random dates as being special, and make an effort to make them so.


    Are you guys in a long distance relationship? If she isn’t around you often, it might be difficut. Good luck with it, though!

    Post # 5
    516 posts
    Busy bee

    Don’t propose on her birthday.  Do it either a day early or the day after.

    Post # 9
    2555 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    why don’t you do it the day before?

    Post # 10
    488 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I say keep the date you have planned (a birthday proposal in China? Yes please!) but start saying things to throw her off. Get your friends in on it too. That’s what my FH did. Either way, though, once she starts 99 gifts, she will more than likely realize what’s afoot.

    Losing the surprise is not the end of the world though! I was 90% sure when FH was proposing, despite not being sure if he had bought the ring already, and my friends and parents telling me not to get my hopes up. (They all knew.) He was acting really sketchy in the minutes before he proposed, and in the back of my mind I thought “OK, this has got to be it.” BUT when he actually got down on his knee, I was speechless and in shock (somehow). Even though she expects it and has probably been dreaming about it and imagining a hundred different scenarios of how it can happen, nothing will prepare her for the actual moment. You will overwhelm her with love and joy ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 11
    3053 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    @hollyberry4:  I, too, thought about the airport.

    Maybe do it the day AFTER you were planning? spread the 99 gifts (super cute idea btw!) over the 2 days? Or give her the 98th & wait until the next morning to get to the ring?

    I’ve also heard stories of girls that expected it on a certain day but bc their SO’s waited until the VERY end of the day, they almost gave up on the idea thinking they were incorrect in their assumptions. Maybe if you wait till the last minute you can (while still being in a romantic place) that will help with the surprise?

    Good luck! It sounds like it’s going to be amazing

    Post # 15
    3053 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    @JEdward:  suggestions on little surprises? Can you show up early? would that ruin plans? that’d be a HUGE and I’m sure amazing surprise!

    -have something at her door or ready for her when she wakes up first thing in the morning, cook her breakfast, flowers, maybe some of the presents can be hidden somewhere for her to find? (like a scavenger hunt type of thing), little love notes on random things you know she will use (hair straightener, refrigerator, etc)…that’s all I can come up with lol idk if that will help at all!

    Post # 16
    350 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I was 99% sure my fiance was going to propose on a certain day (we were going away) and he knew it so he proposed the day before and caught me COMPLETELy off guard which was amazing! Then we got to celebrate on our weekend away!

    no matter what happens, you two will be engaged and it will be amazing!

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