(Closed) She picked the same date as us!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Solus:  Were you planning on getting married at that church? Or having him marry you?

 

Post # 4
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9918 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Are you marrying a man or a woman?

 

I would be a bit annoyed.  How do you want to ask her about it?  Do you care if your wedding is earlier in the day?  Since you’ve already sent your Save the Dates, you might be able to talk to her and convince her to change the date.  If not, consider getting married earlier in the day so your events don’t overlap.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Were you planning on getting married at the church and having the pastor perform the ceremony? I’d be freaked about that aspect.

Post # 7
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9918 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Solus:  I only asked because so many women make the mistake of writing fiancee when talking about their husbands to be!  Congrats, by the way.

How many of your friends overlap?

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

Did she receive a STD? If not then why would your wedding date even be on her radar? I think you can be as disappointed as you like (for some people not being able to come) but you really have no justification for being annoyed at someone outside of your friendship circle picking the same date as you. The 20th of october could hold a special significance for them as a couple or there could be a need (as in sick family or friend) to get married sooner rather than later.

I think as a human if you spend too much time finding things to be annoyed and upset with you will always find something and not have a very full or pleasant life. 

Focus on your wedding and your upcoming marriage.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Solus:  I’m sorry to hear about it. I know that if you were having him marry you or using the church you could probably use that as leverage to ask them to change their date. If you did not invite them to your wedding they might not have realized the date was the same. However, they probably had to take a lot into consideration anyways (birthdays, anniversaries, important relatives availability ect.), and that might have been the best date available for them. Sometimes people insist on getting married on significant days (first kiss, first date ect.) too, so that day might have been picked out for years even though they just got engaged. Its unfortunate, but I think you can either try talking to them to see if their date is flexible, or just realize that not everyone can come.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Solus:  I would contact her and say something like, “Hey, congrats on your upcoming marriage!  I just wanted to let you know that my fiancee and I are getting married on the same date as you.  I think we might invite some of the same people — like Joe McCready, for example, remember him in seventh grade? AWKWARD! — so do you want to have a conversation about it?”

 

Yeah I don’t know.  Joe McCready.  lol.

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