(Closed) She said no, is it over?

posted 9 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: Would you stay with her even if she rejected your proposal?
    Yes : (16 votes)
    34 %
    Nope, bye bye. : (31 votes)
    66 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    I’d want to know more about why she said no, first, but my inclination would be that it’s over.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    I would honestly have to know more about it. Did he know that she didn’t want to get married? Is she just not the marrying type? Did she just not want to marry him? My first inclination would be to leave, but I guess it depends on the details.

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Personally, unless there was a good reason, I don’t think I could live that one down.

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I think it would depend on why she said no. If she’s loves the guy but needs more time to be ready for that next step in the relationship, then yes. If she doesn’t want and/or won’t ever be ready for a lifelong commitment with him, then no.

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee

    It would depend on if it was “No,” with no explaination or “No, not now.”  How old was buddy and his gf?

    Post # 8
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    100% depends on why she said no. If she wasn’t ready, sure I’d stay with her. 

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee

    If by “no” she means, “I’m not ready or sure yet” then that is just the same as a boyfriend not proposing to a girl for whatever reason until he’s ready. It shouldn’t be make or break just because the girl was put on the spot, especially when we (generally) give guys months and years to make the decision.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    Eeep! I don’t know… that’s a toughie. I probably couldn’t stay. How long were they together before he proposed?

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    That sounds like a tough one. I agree that I would talk with her, and see what her hesitation is about. If it’s something that can be worked out or just a lack of communication, maybe it’s worth a shot to stick around for awhile longer & try again. But if he really wants to marry her, and she doesn’t, he might just need to let her go 🙁

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee

    Were they still in school?  I think I’d need to know what stage of life they were in too.  Were all her friends still not married too?

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Definitely leave, when you know you know. If she doesn’t think he’s the one then she’s probably not the one for him either. Poor guy, I feel bad now. 

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I have a good friend who doesn’t believe in marriage (the insitution) it’s a little offbeat, but it’s who she is. She too was proposed to and said no. She is still with the Boyfriend or Best Friend who proposed, but has explained (more in depth) to him that she doesn’t believe in the insitution for herself.

    P.S. She’s a marriage counselor- oh the irony!

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    that’s tough.  She already committed to buying a house together, but she’s not sure about marrying him?  That seems really odd.

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