(Closed) SHe sent simple RSVP’s, now has a food dilema

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
15 posts
  • Wedding: April 2009

Add the entree name to the placecards or color-code them so the waiters know which entree the guest is having.

Post # 4
170 posts
Blushing bee

Divide up the guest list and start calling…

Post # 5
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

I’m actually having a similar problem….  I have the same simple RSVPs, yet need to know who is having what (my club prefers not to have to ask each guest).  After realizing my mistake, I just called the club manager yesterday and she explained that the chef really only needs to which table has which food (so the trays from the kitchen are set correctly)… it will now be up to the wait staff to be sure each person gets their correct meal (by asking).   Have friend call her reception hall and determine if they do just need to know per table and not per person and she might be alright then!  If not, I agree with Vyeta7…. she’s going to have start making phone calls 

Post # 7
23 posts
  • Wedding: August 2019

if her venue works like tater’s, then she’s mostly fine, right, because won’t most people on the same rsvp card also be at the same table (except some parents/children–she can call those people.)

Post # 8
1061 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

haha we made simple RSVPs too, but I knew what I was doing when I sent them out. I have a couple of suggestions…

1) I wrote a post on my blog specifically telling people how to fill out the RSVPs (ie, initial next to the dish you want, not just put check marks). Most of the guests read the blog.

2) If they still put checkmarks, it’s a little harder with 3 people, but I’m just guessing what people are going to want. If I guess incorrectly, they can just do a switcheroo when the food comes out.

3) We asked for their email addresses on the RSVP card, so we can always send a quick email to follow-up (though with the RSVPs already out, this solution doesn’t help your friend much).

4) If, like tater said, you just need to get an accurate count but you don’t need to know who ordered what, you can always have the waiter ask them what they ordered. You leave a little bit up to chance this way, as people may switch what they wanted originally (throwing your numbers off), but if the caterer is okay with this, this may be the best option.

We’re probably not going to drive ourselves crazy with #3 unless the RSVP is like, blank or something. And we didn’t want to go with #4 because I don’t like waiters interrupting conversation to ask questions.

It’s the trade-off of having really simple RSVPs! They’re easy for people to fill out and thus your rate of return is higher, but they may not do it correctly!

Post # 9
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’ve been to weddings before where I was asked at the door which meal I chose and then handed a corresponding card to set at my seat.

Post # 10
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Our venue has the waiters ask the guests at each table which entree they ordered. Chicken, beef, or vegetarian — and then brings those items to the table. 

Post # 11
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Perhaps she can make family/couple escort cards (which, I think, is the proper way anyways) and the back of the escort cards can have all the different menu choices that were listed on the response card. Then waiters can work off of these escort cards  (once guests are seated) to bring each couple or family’s meal? I dunno if this makes sense or can even work. 🙂

Post # 12
37 posts

What my sister did for her reception was print entree cards – blue and red.  We attached them to the family placecards with paperclips. It worked fine!

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