(Closed) She told me what I should wear to her bday party without me asking?!

posted 7 years ago in Holidays
Post # 3
4824 posts
Honey bee

From face value it sounds like she was letting you know that this restaurant’s attire is a bit nicer than jeans. Nothing more to it.

Post # 5
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yeah I agree I think you overthought it, if she was being passive agressive about it I don’t think she would have just came right out and said it to your face. I think she just being a good friend and looking out for you!

Post # 6
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

If the place has a dress code she was probably just giving you a heads up. Some nightclubs for example, won’t let you in with jeans on.

Post # 7
2892 posts
Sugar bee

Maybe her tone made it feel passive aggressive. But going simply by what you wrote I would say she could have just been giving you a heads up about the dress code.

Post # 8
1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I appreciate when a friend tells me that a dress is too dressy or jeans are too casual.  I hate showing up and being inappropriately dressed, when a friend could have mentioned something to me ahead of time.

Post # 9
46606 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would give her the benefit of the doubt that she was just trying to be helpful.

Post # 10
2433 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree with PP that she was trying to be helpful. I know I would appreciate a friend kindly letting me know. I hate to show up feeling underdressed, and would always try to give a friend that info to help keep them from feeling that way!

Post # 11
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

shes a friend, friends say stuff like this and its OK

Post # 12
1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Better to be overdressed than underdressed anyway!

Post # 13
3261 posts
Sugar bee

I think you’re over thinking it.

Post # 14
346 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yeah your overthinking it she’s just giving you a heads up.

Post # 15
4324 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

She was totally being direct. This is the definition of being direct. Direct is healthy.

Post # 16
1723 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You were over thinking, and its okay! It happens all the time 🙂

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