- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
So I had a very close friend growing up. From elementary school right through the first few years of college we were BFFs.
She attended college a few years longer than I, and in a different state. In that time, we grew significantly apart. I was working and struggling as a young adult to support myself, yet reveling in the fact that I moved out of state and had a “grown up” job and apartment and real world responsibilities. She was still at a party school, going on spring break, living off her parents money, etc. We were just in such different worlds for those few years that we really couldn’t connect anymore.
We spent some time together after she was done with school, but it was very forced and awkward. She blew me off often and contacted me more when she needed a favor. The only time we really had fun and enjoyed each other’s company at this point is when we had a party, but it was more the excitement and other guests that fueled that.
Needless to say, our friendship pretty much stalled out for good there. We sometimes send a random text or Facebook message to each other now and then, when something reminds us of the other or whatnot – but we dont do any actual “talking” or catching up.
Regardless of this, I invited her to my wedding six months ago because we had such a history and it felt wrong not having her there. She traveled 10 hours to attend my wedding. It was fantastic to have her there. We ended up talking a bit after the wedding and it was a lot like old times. It seems she’s done a lot of growing up in the past few years.
So, her wedding was last month. It was held in the town I currently live in. Unlike mine, hers was a huge (200+ guests) lavish ballroom affair. I wasn’t invited. I know that weddings are expensive and its hard to narrow down a guest list, i totally get that. But, it seems very strange to me that it was important enough for her to take off work and travel 10 hours to attend my wedding (and give a very generous gift), but not invite me to her wedding that’s only 20 minutes from my house?
I’m not upset, or angry about this. But, I can’t help but feel something about it is off. Did she attend my wedding for an alternate reason – like to “show off” that she’s a big time lawyer and can give expensive gifts now? Did she just happen to have plans to be in my town anyway the day of my wedding and figure “why not?”? I don’t know, bees. It just seems strange. What do you think?
Ps- should I send a gift?!