Post # 1
First time poster, longtime lurker! I’ll cut straight to the story: I’m getting married in August 2013. I asked my sister to be my Maid/Matron of Honor this past June. She didn’t even accept or say thank you. She made a weird face and changed the subject, and then recently she’s started asking “what can I wear?”
A little background: she’s used to getting whatever she wants from everyone, and she dresses like she thinks she’s an underwear model, hence the reason she went to the Playboy mansion for their Halloween party this year. She spent a fortune on a peacock costume to wear to the party.
Anyways, she had a conversation with my mum about wanting to wear the Halloween costume to my wedding. I just about hit the roof when my mum casually mentioned it. Now, I’m no prude when it comes to fashion – I usually have magenta hair and I have a ton of tattoos. The vision that my fiance and I have for our wedding is, uh, a freaking wedding! Not a Halloween party!
We’re planning a classy-yet-casual backyard wedding at my parents’ house. Ugh. And when I addressed her little plan to wear this trashalicious garb as an honour attendant, she told me to lighten up, and “now it’s back to the drawing board for me! KRI” (And just last night, she said she wants to wear a feather headdress. I think she got lobotomized or something to think that would be cool or acceptable.)
Now I’m having second thoughts about her being the Maid/Matron of Honor, and I kinda want to dump her. Help?
Post # 3
@StarkRavingFeminist: You sure she isn’t just pulling your leg?
Post # 4
I hope she is joking, because if she isn’t, she’s batshit crazy.
Post # 5
@StarkRavingFeminist: I think she is joking…or did she mean the peacock costume?
Post # 6
LOL Just buy the dress you want and tell her to wear it. 🙂 She can’t complain toooo much if she didn’t have to pay for it.
Post # 7
Does she understand that usually as a Bridesmaid or Best Man the BRIDE chooses your attire? Not really sure why she would be back to the drawing board….
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
Has she been in someone else’s BP? What does she normally wear to those kinds of functions? Are you sure she wasn’t joking (you know her personality better than anyone on here)? Did your mom have any feedback to her grand ideas?
Post # 10
She’s not kidding. I can’t even make this shit up.
Yeah, she’s totally insane. She wants to wear something “all the single guys will stare at”. Thing is, all of the single guys are either children or gay. Lol
Post # 12
I think that might be the only way to solve this… She cant say no if she does then you can ask her to step down and ask someone else who sees the same vision that you have for your wedding
Post # 13
I totally agree.
The funny thing is, my fiance and I have all of the details hammered down. We just need to lock down the menu. Wedding planning has been super easy, so of course there has to be something that throws some drama into the whole affair. Argh!
Post # 14
Yikes! I would set a date with her to go dress shopping at a bridal shop, and give her free reign to wear whatever shoes she wants. Maybe if she can wear something that she picks out on her own, she won’t show up looking like two-dollar hooker.
Post # 15
You’re all way too nice. I would be ticked and bluntly tell her, “I cannot believe you think you’re wearing the peacock costume to my wedding. That is not happening. It’s a wedding, not a single’s dance. You need to wear something appropriate or you’re not coming at all.”
Post # 16
Find her a peacock fascinator and then you guys can go shopping for a dress that’s her style but that you’re still okay with.
One of my friends is dating this girl that’s a social worker with her MSW…she fosters kittens and is an amazing human being, but she just always dresses like a biker groupie. To a wedding last year she wore a neon orange bandage dress with 6″ courtney stodden heels, but for her that was classy so it made sense. So maybe for your sister, if she can dress appropriately (not a costume) but still be comfortable in her own style, you guys can come to a compromise.