Post # 1
I used to be acquaintances with this girl who dated a friend of mine. I slowly distanced myself from hanging out with them because she was very uptight, superficial, and image obsessed.
We have mutual friends and she recently got married. Photos from her wedding started popping up on my Facebook Feed.
I had to do the mother of all eyerolls. She wore FOUR wedding dresses! And she had TWO weddings, which I found rather confusing. I thought two weddings usually happened for destination brides where you have to legally get married at a courthouse and then have your wedding abroad.
At first, photos of her wearing a beautiful, short lace dress at the courthouse popped up. I thought, “Wow. That’s so unlike her. Good for her. She looks beautiful.”
Then she had another wedding the next day. They still did the whole bride walking down the aisle wearing a ball gown. She changed into another formal wedding dress for the reception. Then another formal dress at the end of the night for the send off.
Who has the time and energy to change that much? I would be worried leaving to change a bunch would take away time from guests. I would want to live in the moment instead of worrying about what I look like.
I’m kind of amused though. We all know at least one narcissist in our lives, or a person who thinks they’re a movie star.
I get it when some people want to change into something more comfortable for dancing/relaxing at the reception, but this is overdoing it.
Post # 2
So far, I have one formal wedding dress for the ceremony. I’m debating buying a nice, non-wedding dress for the reception. I want to be comfortable when I eat and relax after the wedding.
We are also taking photos at the beach after the ceremony and I’m so afraid of getting my dress full of sand, or accidentally falling into the water. I plan on reselling my dress.
Post # 3
Haha, I know someone who had 5! It’s very common in some Asian cultures to have several dresses though.
Post # 4
Most Asian weddings (Chinese) I’ve been to the bride wears three dresses: western wedding dress, traditional red dress and a cocktail dress for reception. At first I thought wearing a different white wedding and reception dress is strange but I have got used to it. I’m not Asian but most of my social circle are. In fact, most guests change for the ceremony and reception too!
But, for someone to have three or more dresses and one of them is not for a traditional cultural ceremony, I find that over the top!
Post # 5
Another vote for this being very common in some places, like Japan.
Post # 6
Why is it so offensive? If she can afford it and it makes her happy, why does that make her narcissistic? Perhaps your assumption that she’s caring about how she looks is misplaced — aren’t weddings often about how you feel? If I had a chance to wear four types of wedding dresses, I’d be like “WOOO ONCE IN A LIFETIME OPPORTUNITY”.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
It’s a little over-the-top for my tastes, but in some cultures it’s to be expected. That makes a lot more sense than people who buy multiple dresses then sell one on eBay, or buy a special dress for “trash the dress” shoots.
Post # 8
Penang1885: JenGirl: LyndaButterfly: rachel85: Oh, I know. I was going to make a reference earlier that I understand it can be common to wear multiple dresses in other cultures. This was not a cultueral reference though.
Post # 9
winstonchurchill: No one said it was offensive. I said it was amusing and an eyeroll move. I know this person personally. Trust me, she’s a narcissist.
Examples: She tried to start a beauty YouTube channel. She expected to turn into the next Michelle Phan. When she didn’t get the fame she thought she deserved she blamed it on “the probably fat, ugly girls who won’t comment because they’re probably jealous of me.”
We went to Vegas for her boyfriend/my friend’s birthday with a bunch of people. One of his friends flew in and was super jet lagged. He wanted to go back to the hotel and sleep for a while instead of going to dinner. She threw a fit and said HE ruined her boyfriend’s birthday.
Yes, you should feel good at your wedding, and you should feel beautiful, but it’s not ALL about you. It’s about family, friends, and the groom as well. There’s more to it than just the bride.
This was meant to be a light hearted post.
I also asked how many dresses everyone planned to wear.
Post # 10
so are you jealous of her?
Post # 11
SprinkleDonut: Totally on board with you. Four dresses is over the top. Call me jealous or whatever, but I can’t stand people who flaunt their money/looks/whatever. I think humility is something our society needs to get back. I hate the flashiness and showboating that so many brides are about these days.
People can make their day whatever they want, but I totally reserve the right to be judgey about it. 😀
Of course, if she is a Chinese bride, then that makes more sense, but since your post didn’t mention it, I assume she had four dresses just because.
Post # 12
I wouldn’t (and don’t) care how many wedding dresses someone else. What I do wonder is who has the time to care so much about that girl and her 4 dresses? It is very common in some cultures to have numerous ceremonies/receptions and/or dresses. If I had the time for my wedding I definitely would have had 2 dresses.
Post # 13
I think it’s fine. She had the money to do it, so she did. Hey, even if she didn’t have the money, that’s still up to her.
In your post you said something along of the lines of “who has the time and energy for that” and “I would be worried about…”, but that’s you, not her. She had the energy, she had the time; she had an idea of what she wanted and she made it happen. I’m sure the “who has time and energy for that” question could be applied to some of the things you want to do or have done.
Now, I’ll take your word for it that she’s a narcissist. In that case having four dresses is in-line with her past behavior and, therefore, not a big deal.
As for how many dresses I would wear… Hmmm, at least two.
Post # 14
Haha I’m Chinese and had 3 dresses.
1 for my tea ceremony in the morning, traditional red dress
1 white wedding dress for civil ceremony in afternoon
and 1 reception dress which was also red.
I brought all my dress online and then altered which is why I could afford it.
but yeah as previous poster said, it’s quite common in Asian cultures/weddings.
Post # 15
Her wedding, her way.
I say lucky her to have had four dresses!