Post # 1
We were @ a bar the other night when a bunch of people came in after leaving early from a wedding reception. Apparently there wasn’t much happening so they all went to the bar together (rude). We knew a couple of the people and started chatting them up. I turned around and said ‘Whoa, the bride left her own reception?’ One of the guys said ‘no, that’s one of our coworkers.’ This woman had a full-length ivory slip dress on! And ivory heels!
I said to the others, ‘Whoa, she wore WHITE to someone else’s wedding?!’ to which they all looked at me like I was insane for even thinking that was an issue. They honestly didn’t even know that was a faux paus! They thought I was crazy for even pointing it out, like ‘who cares?’
I felt kinda silly… but I would be sort of mad if someone else wore a bridal-y dress to my wedding!
Post # 3
First – I agree, rude to leave early and go to a bar. Second – that would not be ok in my book either….it doesn’t sound like a cute-with-a-bit-of-white dress. And I want to stand out on my day! I would upset if I was the bride and someone wore that to my wedding.
Post # 4
I’m a no-white at a wedding type of gal too. I don’t get why women do that. I can understand that guys don’t know the rule, but every woman knows. I think the only reason a woman would do it would be to get under the bride’s skin.
Post # 5
I’m all about changing things up and not abiding by these “etiquette rules” for so many things related to weddings…but I don’t think any woman should EVER wear white or ivory to a wedding. I’m totally with you! That’s a traditional custom I totally support. But I keep hearing more and more people mentioning this so I guess some people don’t care or maybe just don’t know any better…curious as to how many people agree. You should add a poll…out of curiousity! 🙂
Post # 6
I’m completely with you ladies. White is white and is for the bride. I even think like ivory and off white….all of those light colors should be left for the bride. I stay clear of anything with white on if for weddings because I don’t want people talking about me like I’m the “white” lady!
Post # 7
I agree with everyone else too – I will be very unhappy (and a little ticked if I’m going to be honest) if anyone wears white, ivory, off-white, cream, etc to my wedding but me. I think it is beyond tacky and EVERY woman should know better. It is my one day to stand out front and center in my white gown!
Post # 8
Personally, I wouldn’t care. But I would never do it b/c I know most people do care. Maybe the people you were with haven’t been to many weddings?
Post # 9
The group of people who will leave someone’s wedding reception early to go to a bar are the same group of people who see nothing wrong with wearing white to someone’s wedding. Shocker.
Post # 10
@ Kittyachi, my thoughts exactly.
Post # 11
Kitty – totally true. And I added a poll.
Post # 12
Yikes. I went to a wedding a few years ago where an ex-sorority sister sat at our table wearing a white satin strapless dress with a black sash. i don’t care if it was knee length, we all got drunk and gossiped about how tacky she was =]
Post # 13
Um… so rude. If this happens at my wedding, and call me a bridezilla, but I’d get someone to ask her to leave. I wouldn’t want everyone talking about her poor judgement and I wouldn’t want to take her down, bride-wars style.
Post # 14
That is ABSOLUTELY rude, and a little passive-agressive, if you ask me. “Sure, I’ll show up at your wedding, at your special day, but I’m showing up in head-to-toe white and making a dramatic exit. Toodles!”
Post # 15
There are TONS of etiquette things that guests may or may not know but knowing that the bride wears white is common knowledge – even if you’ve never been to a wedding you’ve seen a bride. Wearing white is rude unless the wedding is on a beach (just because linens and light weight fabrics are usually white).
Post # 16
I didn’t vote because there wasn’t really an option for what I think. Some people, a lot of people, don’t realize that is a rule. I wouldn’t do it NOW, after being on wedding bee etc.
I don’t think the tradition is outdated, and I wouldn’t do it, but I also wouldn’t want somene to do that at my wedding. I also don’t think that every woman knows that rule.
A lot of people don’t know these “traditions” or ideals or class-rules or whatever you want to call them. I don’t think anyone would do it on purpose, they probably just didn’t know.