(Closed) She wore white to someone else’s wedding?!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would YOU wear white to someone else's wedding?
    Heck no! Everyone woman knows that rule! : (116 votes)
    85 %
    Sure... that tradition is way outdated! : (1 votes)
    1 %
    I wouldn't, but I wouldn't care if someone else did to my wedding. : (20 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
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    1418 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    First – I agree, rude to leave early and go to a bar.  Second – that would not be ok in my book either….it doesn’t sound like a cute-with-a-bit-of-white dress.  And I want to stand out on my day!  I would upset if I was the bride and someone wore that to my wedding.  

    Post # 4
    Member
    10851 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’m a no-white at a wedding type of gal too. I don’t get why women do that. I can understand that guys don’t know the rule, but every woman knows. I think the only reason a woman would do it would be to get under the bride’s skin.

    Post # 5
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    5496 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I’m all about changing things up and not abiding by these “etiquette rules” for so many things related to weddings…but I don’t think any woman should EVER wear white or ivory to a wedding. I’m totally with you! That’s a traditional custom I totally support. But I keep hearing more and more people mentioning this so I guess some people don’t care or maybe just don’t know any better…curious as to how many people agree. You should add a poll…out of curiousity! 🙂

    Post # 6
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    46 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’m completely with you ladies. White is white and is for the bride. I even think like ivory and off white….all of those light colors should be left for the bride. I stay clear of anything with white on if for weddings because I don’t want people talking about me like I’m the “white” lady!

    Post # 7
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    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I agree with everyone else too – I will be very unhappy (and a little ticked if I’m going to be honest) if anyone wears white, ivory, off-white, cream, etc to my wedding but me.  I think it is beyond tacky and EVERY woman should know better.  It is my one day to stand out front and center in my white gown!

    Post # 8
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    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Personally, I wouldn’t care.  But I would never do it b/c I know most people do care.  Maybe the people you were with haven’t been to many weddings?

    Post # 9
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    3162 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    The group of people who will leave someone’s wedding reception early to go to a bar are the same group of people who see nothing wrong with wearing white to someone’s wedding. Shocker.

    Post # 10
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    2788 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @ Kittyachi, my thoughts exactly.

    Post # 12
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Yikes. I went to a wedding a few years ago where an ex-sorority sister sat at our table wearing a white satin strapless dress with a black sash. i don’t care if it was knee length, we all got drunk and gossiped about how tacky she was =]

    Post # 13
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    3979 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Um… so rude. If this happens at my wedding, and call me a bridezilla, but I’d get someone to ask her to leave. I wouldn’t want everyone talking about her poor judgement and I wouldn’t want to take her down, bride-wars style.

    Post # 14
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    118 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    That is ABSOLUTELY rude, and a little passive-agressive, if you ask me. “Sure, I’ll show up at your wedding, at your special day, but I’m showing up in head-to-toe white and making a dramatic exit. Toodles!”

    Post # 15
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    2867 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    There are TONS of etiquette things that guests may or may not know but knowing that the bride wears white is common knowledge – even if you’ve never been to a wedding you’ve seen a bride. Wearing white is rude unless the wedding is on a beach (just because linens and light weight fabrics are usually white).

    Post # 16
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    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I didn’t vote because there wasn’t really an option for what I think.  Some people, a lot of people, don’t realize that is a rule.  I wouldn’t do it NOW, after being on wedding bee etc.

    I don’t think the tradition is outdated, and I wouldn’t do it, but I also wouldn’t want somene to do that at my wedding.  I also don’t think that every woman knows that rule. 

    A lot of people don’t know these “traditions” or ideals or class-rules or whatever you want to call them.  I don’t think anyone would do it on purpose, they probably just didn’t know.

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