- 6 years ago
This will be a long one, but I’d love some real advice.
A friend from high school asked me to be her maid of honor. I agreed when she said that no one else would do it. I was skeptical about the wedding because she turned down the proposal for four months until the groom came into a LOT of money. She’s currently using that money to fund her wedding. She’s always been fairly rich, so now she’s not even looking at price tags.
I live two hours away working a 40 hr/week unpaid internship, so I don’t have a lot of time or money. However, I’ve made a commitment to be the Maid/Matron of Honor so I don’t want to back out. I have a few issues though with this wedding. I’d like to know if I’m just being self-centered or if maybe I’m dealing with a Bridezilla. And if so, what should I do?
-I got no say in my dress. I paid $100 for a long satin dress to wear in mid-afternoon outside in July. We fought over who got the free Shutterfly gift card that came with it.
-She yelled at me for cutting my hair. But she said I can’t wear an updo because she thinks they’re ugly. So I cut 14 inches off (hot July wedding outside!)
-She’s booked us to get our hair done at the most expensive salon in the area. I don’t want to pay a lot for what will end up being just curled hair. She’s also booked us to get airbrushed makeup, even though the salon is very heavy-handed with it.
-She said she didn’t want my pale Ginger skin standing out in the pictures, so she wanted me to get a fake tan. I said no.
-For reasons involving personal family abuse issues, I don’t drink. She’s a heavy drinker and told me that if I didn’t drink during the toast I’d embarrass her. Her mother is currently trying to convince her that no one will care if I drink water or juice. (She often berates me for not drinking. The only thing to drink at the bridal shower was mimosas. I had to bring my own water bottle.)
-The other bridesmaid is very rude and hateful towards me because of my inability to participate or pay for many things. She often mocks me and says I just make excuses. I’ve brought this to the bride’s attention and was brushed off. At one point the groom had to drag me away from the other bridesmaid because she insulted my unpaid work (I’m a student teacher for Special Ed kids) and I wasn’t sure what I was going to do but it wasn’t going to be nice.
-The bride is mad because I’m struggling to plan the bachelorette party. I’m a quiet, striaght-laced non-drinker. But she wants to go to a male strip club, then go to a minimum of three different bars, then hire a stripper to come to a hotel room with us all. It actually caused a huge fight between my boyfriend and I because he doesn’t want me in what he considers a dangerous situation.
-The bride never gives me any information but often teams up with the other bridesmaid to berate me for being unhelpful.
I don’t want to back out. I’m currently $250 into the wedding and with no income it’s been hard but I’m not a quitter. I don’t want to ask the bride for money. I don’t want to be in debt to her. Any advice? I wanted to get this off my chesst. Thank you to everyone who takes the time to read my post. 🙂
- This topic was modified 5 years, 7 months ago by RedHeadMaiden.