(Closed) She's absolutely TERRIBLE (RANT)

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee

Why do you call her a friend? You obviously hate everything about this girl.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

And you’re friends with this woman?

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Um, if you dislike how she acts so much, why are you friends with her still?

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@jomir:  I’ve been trying to work on keeping my frienship with her.

…Why?

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

What everyone else said.  I don’t get it.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

if there’s someone so toxic in your life and you choose to keep them there, you’re going to be venting/ranting a lot.  sorry she sucks, i guess

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

This is why I have few close friends. Quality over quantity every time.

 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

Yeah, I’d definitely lose this friend! Especially on the pregnant comment for your poor sister! No one has a right to comment on a pregnant woman’s body except her doctor!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@jomir:  I understand your frustration and kudo’s to you for not just dropping her. I know there have been times when I have been a bad friend, I certainly wouldn’t want my friends to walk away but would love for them to put me in my place.

Maybe there is someway you can bring up what you wrote here to her, I know some people may not take criticism well no matter the form but I also think that doesn’t mean we stay quiet.

Maybe next time she says something about your sister’s weight gain you can explain why it’s that way, or state something like “Well it’s good she’s gaining, she is doing what the doctor asked”. When it comes to her husband you could always ask her what he thinks, or state something along the lines that “Your husband loves you and would help you with whatever you need, but don’t you think you could thank him and help your cause even more by going to some business classes?”

We all need coaching in life….let’s help eachother to be better people not just walk away 🙂 Of course there are times when you have done everything you could and there aren’t a lot of options left.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Umm not much of a friendly relationship happening here. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

It sounds like your “friendship” is in transition. 

I had a “friend” like this once, and at first she was the sweetest, funniest, most kind person you could ever meet. Eventually she showed her true colors, and it was hard for me to stand by and watch her browbeat her husband, shame him, and put him down in front of other people. She also made it known that she refused to sleep with him anymore — which was mystifying to the rest of us, because he was a handsome hunk and even though she was about 75 lbs. overweight, he was always trying to be very sweet and affectionate with her.

I finally stopped hanging around with her and my life is better for it. Oh and I later heard that her husband had an affair with one of his co-workers.

Just stop hanging out with her and let time run its course. You don’t need people like this in your life. Cut her loose, and make room for positive energy and positive people.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I agree with PPs. Also, continuing to be friends with this girl is kind of two-faced, IMO, since you don’t have a single good thing to say about her. This isn’t a case of “I love my friend but I acknowledge that she has her faults.”

I’d either have a long talk with her about the issues, or cut her loose. There are better friends you could have who won’t cause you as much stress.

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