Post # 1
So I have this friend.
And she’s terrible.
She wants to have her own shop, but she doesn’t want to do any work to get it. She’s not going to school, she’s making her husband go instead because she can’t be bothered with taking business classes to make HER OWN dream come true. She acts as though her husband doesn’t have any dreams of his own besides doing her bidding. It’s gotten to the point where he just acts like a beaten dog and never really voices any sort of opinion on anything if someone asks what he wants to do. She honestly expects everyone to do anything she asks them to and acts as though her parents and family were placed on this earth just for the HONOR and PRIVILEGE of being her keeper.
Maybe I’m annoyed with her because of her ne’er do wrong attitude and over all b****y personality. She seriously had the nerve to say that my pregnant sister is getting fat because she craves cheeseburgers (my sister has gained all of like five pounds, and her dr says she needs to gain more weight for the safety of her baby), EVEN THOUGH my sister can barely eat anything else because most food makes her nauseous. And anyway, my friend gained like 20 pounds in three months and couldn’t fit her wedding dress.
I’m just annoyed, I guess. Ranting made me feel better.
Post # 3
Why do you call her a friend? You obviously hate everything about this girl.
Post # 4
And you’re friends with this woman?
Post # 5
Um, if you dislike how she acts so much, why are you friends with her still?
Post # 6
Sigh. I’ve been trying to work on keeping my frienship with her. We’ve been friends for like 6 years. Right now, though, it’s tough.
Post # 7
@jomir: I’ve been trying to work on keeping my frienship with her.
Post # 8
What everyone else said. I don’t get it.
Post # 9
if there’s someone so toxic in your life and you choose to keep them there, you’re going to be venting/ranting a lot. sorry she sucks, i guess
Post # 10
This is why I have few close friends. Quality over quantity every time.
Post # 11
Yeah, I’d definitely lose this friend! Especially on the pregnant comment for your poor sister! No one has a right to comment on a pregnant woman’s body except her doctor!
Post # 12
@jomir: I understand your frustration and kudo’s to you for not just dropping her. I know there have been times when I have been a bad friend, I certainly wouldn’t want my friends to walk away but would love for them to put me in my place.
Maybe there is someway you can bring up what you wrote here to her, I know some people may not take criticism well no matter the form but I also think that doesn’t mean we stay quiet.
Maybe next time she says something about your sister’s weight gain you can explain why it’s that way, or state something like “Well it’s good she’s gaining, she is doing what the doctor asked”. When it comes to her husband you could always ask her what he thinks, or state something along the lines that “Your husband loves you and would help you with whatever you need, but don’t you think you could thank him and help your cause even more by going to some business classes?”
We all need coaching in life….let’s help eachother to be better people not just walk away 🙂 Of course there are times when you have done everything you could and there aren’t a lot of options left.
Post # 13
Umm not much of a friendly relationship happening here.
Post # 14
It sounds like your “friendship” is in transition.
I had a “friend” like this once, and at first she was the sweetest, funniest, most kind person you could ever meet. Eventually she showed her true colors, and it was hard for me to stand by and watch her browbeat her husband, shame him, and put him down in front of other people. She also made it known that she refused to sleep with him anymore — which was mystifying to the rest of us, because he was a handsome hunk and even though she was about 75 lbs. overweight, he was always trying to be very sweet and affectionate with her.
I finally stopped hanging around with her and my life is better for it. Oh and I later heard that her husband had an affair with one of his co-workers.
Just stop hanging out with her and let time run its course. You don’t need people like this in your life. Cut her loose, and make room for positive energy and positive people.
Post # 15
I agree with PPs. Also, continuing to be friends with this girl is kind of two-faced, IMO, since you don’t have a single good thing to say about her. This isn’t a case of “I love my friend but I acknowledge that she has her faults.”
I’d either have a long talk with her about the issues, or cut her loose. There are better friends you could have who won’t cause you as much stress.
Post # 16
Jeez. I didn’t realize how immature I sound. Thank you, Bees, for knocking me down a few pegs.
I guess, I’ll probably just honestly talk to her and then we’ll see.