Post # 1
Oh my goodness! Just got a text from my mom saying Davids Bridal appointment Monday the 19th at 11:30. Nothing seems bad about that right?
I’m getting married in April! I’ve been engaged since April! We planned to go dress shopping in June, with my Future Mother-In-Law as well. Well my mom forgot to take off work so we had to cancel. Rescheduled for the beginning of July and again she had to cancel. And twice in August. Then in September we had an appointment and it wasn’t her fault but we had to cancel. My Grandmother was terribly sick so we drove 6 hours south to see her, she passed away the day before the appointment so neither of us were feeling too festive.
So finally we reschedule for November. She tells me since October that 11-13 would be the appointment day. Going to try on dresses. We confirmed this just two weeks ago. But I just got a text from her saying “November 19th at 11:30”. The day before, doesn’t give me much notice right?
I would just go ahead and go but she’s really excited about this. Not to mention I lost my license a little over a year ago from having a seizure. I wont get it back till May 2015. And the closest wedding dress shop is an hour away so I have no way to go without mom. Not many close friends here. But one of my BMs is here and wants to go shopping, my Future Mother-In-Law was touched I invited her, but after so many cancellations she’s just given up.
I don’t know what to do. I love my mom and understand if there are issues like finances or something but gaaah!!! Not being able to have the day off work when we planned it two months in advance? Things just comming up? I don’t know what to do! Advice?
I didn’t even want to do this. I wanted to just make my own dress but she talked me into doing this. Now I’m excited looking at dresses, and now it’s too late to start making my own dress with so many other DIYs going on. And only 5 months until the wedding times getting real short on even buying a dress and being able to have it altered. I don’t know what to do!
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
@pinkgreenandyellow: I would say that after all the cancellations, go with the local Bridesmaid or Best Man and tell your mom (if she’s as excited as you indicate) to meet you there. You can’t really wait much longer to order a dress. That sucks that it’s been cancelled so many times, sorry!
Post # 4
Go with your Future Mother-In-Law and local Bridesmaid or Best Man. Let your mom know you are keeping the appointment and tell her you would love for her to come but time has run out. Also try other stores if there are any nearby. I wasn’t in love with DB but LOVED Alfred Angelo. See if you can get a few appointments scheduled the same day. That might really entice mom. 😀 sorry mom is being such a PITA.
Post # 5
@secondchances: Agreed. Invite your mom but don’t give her the power to cancel the appointment. If she can’t make it, she’ll just have to miss out. You need to order your dress!
Post # 6
Thank you all. My Bridesmaid or Best Man in town is available next Monday so we are going to go for that day (the one my mom just scheduled) but I’m going to call to confirm the appointment on Friday. If my mom backs out, my Bridesmaid or Best Man will be going anyways. My Future Mother-In-Law probably has to work but I sent her an email asking her anyways. I don’t want to exclude my mom from this, it was her idea. I want her there. But sheesh! I just don’t know how much more cancellations I can take.
I agreed to let her pay, even though I didn’t want her to. She said it was really important to her. But it’s important to me to have a dress the day of. So I’m just bugging out a bit. I didn’t think I would be like this. I feel like the typical “bridezilla” I haven’t freaked out on my mom and I’m not fuming but I am upset. I don’t like being upset with my mom.
Post # 7
Agree with those who say to go next time whether or not your mother is available.
Another option is for Fiance to drive you. He doesn’t need to go in the store, he can drop you there and go somewhere else and wait, maybe. Any hardware stores nearby? 🙂
Post # 8
Why does it have to be a hardware store? My Fiance would want a gaming store.
Anyways, yeah, you need to go with or without your mom and see what the policy is on layaway or holding a gown of your choice until your mom can put the money on it.
I’d take a video camera. You can video tape at DB. I did it. And then show it to your mom so she can see you in the dresses. Do not just take pictures. Also video tape it. Trust me. Use your phone or whatever to video it.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
There’s not much more I can add to what others have said – you need to just get there and try on the dresses.
Does your mum know how long it can take to get a dress ordered? My mum didn’t realise the length of time it could take, until we were in the shop and she was talking to the assistants. Maybe when you speak to her emphasise that if you don’t sort it NOW then you won’t have a dress, that might give her the kick she needs.
Post # 10
just go with your bm first to the first fitting, as you will probably will be going there for a few times. choose a dress. then tell your mum if she is free she can go to the secong fitting and have a look and give some opinion. if you wait any longer, you will not be able to get your dress on time. as sometimes you have to wait at least 3 months for a dress..
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Post # 12
I don’t have anything else to add, as I think others gave you excellent advice.
I will say that the people are some of the hardest parts of having a wedding. I’m really really sorry for you.
Post # 13
@MissHobbit: I will say that the people are some of the hardest parts of having a wedding.
No kidding. Other people make me want to rip my hair out. Thankfully, I haven’t had to deal with nearly as much as some ladies here.
Post # 14
PPs have really already given great advice – keep your appointment, express how much you would love for her to be there, and explain why you really can’t wait any longer. Between getting the dress in and having it altered, you don’t have time to wait. I hope you find something great!
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
I agree with PP express to your mom that while you’d love to have her there you are running out of time.
However, just know that some designers do offer “express” dresses. I do know that Maggie Sottero does this and I believe a few other designers as well. So you can ask your shop about these dresses and after ordering the dress will be in 3-4 months instead of the usual 6-8 months. A lot of the dresses are popular styles as well so you won’t be getting something not appealing. Just an option to kind of ease your mind while dress shopping.
EDIT: Maggies dresses are “Priority” dresses and there are about 11 different styles to choose from. Not sure what other designers do this PRIORITY but I have heard some do this. Also another option is to buy a sample from the store.