(Closed) My mom has cancelled my dress appointment 6 times now!!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

@pinkgreenandyellow:  I would say that after all the cancellations, go with the local Bridesmaid or Best Man and tell your mom (if she’s as excited as you indicate) to meet you there.  You can’t really wait much longer to order a dress.  That sucks that it’s been cancelled so many times, sorry!

Post # 4
2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Go with your Future Mother-In-Law and local Bridesmaid or Best Man. Let your mom know you are keeping the appointment and tell her you would love for her to come but time has run out. Also try other stores if there are any nearby. I wasn’t in love with DB but LOVED Alfred Angelo. See if you can get a few appointments scheduled the same day. That might really entice mom. 😀 sorry mom is being such a PITA.

Post # 5
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@secondchances:  Agreed. Invite your mom but don’t give her the power to cancel the appointment. If she can’t make it, she’ll just have to miss out. You need to order your dress! 

Post # 7
7735 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Agree with those who say to go next time whether or not your mother is available.

Another option is for Fiance to drive you. He doesn’t need to go in the store, he can drop you there and go somewhere else and wait, maybe. Any hardware stores nearby? 🙂

Post # 8
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Why does it have to be a hardware store? My Fiance would want a gaming store.


Anyways, yeah, you need to go with or without your mom and see what the policy is on layaway or holding a gown of your choice until your mom can put the money on it.

I’d take a video camera. You can video tape at DB. I did it. And then show it to your mom so she can see you in the dresses. Do not just take pictures. Also video tape it. Trust me. Use your phone or whatever to video it. 

Post # 9
2587 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

There’s not much more I can add to what others have said – you need to just get there and try on the dresses.

Does your mum know how long it can take to get a dress ordered? My mum didn’t realise the length of time it could take, until we were in the shop and she was talking to the assistants. Maybe when you speak to her emphasise that if you don’t sort it NOW then you won’t have a dress, that might give her the kick she needs.

Post # 10
327 posts
Helper bee

just go with your bm first to the first fitting, as you will probably will  be going there for a few times. choose a dress. then tell your mum if she is free she can go to the secong fitting and have a look and give some opinion. if you wait any longer, you will not be able to get your dress on time. as sometimes you have to wait at least 3 months for a dress..

Post # 11
2889 posts
Sugar bee

As an alternative, maybe you could look online and see what sort of options you could order off the rack which are returnable. Then you could have some dresses to try on at home and invite mom to come by after work and check them out. I don’t know what you are looking for at all but check the Sale section of major departmetn stores for some great deals. 





Post # 12
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t have anything else to add, as I think others gave you excellent advice.

I will say that the people are some of the hardest parts of having a wedding. I’m really really sorry for you.

Post # 13
11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MissHobbit:  I will say that the people are some of the hardest parts of having a wedding.

No kidding. Other people make me want to rip my hair out. Thankfully, I haven’t had to deal with nearly as much as some ladies here.

Post # 14
986 posts
Busy bee

PPs have really already given great advice – keep your appointment, express how much you would love for her to be there, and explain why you really can’t wait any longer. Between getting the dress in and having it altered, you don’t have time to wait. I hope you find something great!

Post # 16
3417 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

I agree with PP express to your mom that while you’d love to have her there you are running out of time.

However, just know that some designers do offer “express” dresses.  I do know that Maggie Sottero does this and I believe a few other designers as well.  So you can ask your shop about these dresses and after ordering the dress will be in 3-4 months instead of the usual 6-8 months.  A lot of the dresses are popular styles as well so you won’t be getting something not appealing.  Just an option to kind of ease your mind while dress shopping.

EDIT: Maggies dresses are “Priority” dresses and there are about 11 different styles to choose from.  Not sure what other designers do this PRIORITY but I have heard some do this.  Also another option is to buy a sample from the store.

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