Post # 1
My co worker and i are about the same age. i’m 25 she is 27. I was engaged before her, but we have postponed our wedding because we are paying for it ourselves. a year after we were engaged, He fiancee proposed to her. I am happy for her,and I love having someone to bounce ideas off of, BUT we have very tastes and she is a little more upfront about things when she doesn’t like something. I try to be polite and if i don’t like her ideas I keep that to myself. She tries to convince me why my ideas aren’t good!!!! Her parents are giving her money towards her wedding so she has been buying everything. She says she can’t beleive i am doing DIY projects. “i could never do that I’m just soooo busy!!!” That is is her favorite line!!! Also when I have a good idea she asks if she can borrow it for her wedding!! I hate hate hate confrontation so I just just say fine, plus we are going to have different people at our wedding besides our co workers. I am just so bothered by her and I feel maybe it’s because I am a little angry that she is having her wedding first and that she is not shelling out all of her cash, but am I wrong to feel this way?
Post # 3
I would tell her that after some family issues, you and your Fiance have decided to keep your planning a secret, and that you can’t wait for her to be surprised on the day of, and then stick to it!
Six months is going to fly by, and you have more time to enjoy being engaged. Don’t let her ruin your fun! 🙂
Post # 4
Just don’t talk to her about wedding stuff. Or is she asks you about your wedding planning just say “oh, we haven’t decided on that yet” and just turn around or something. After a while, whe’ll get the clue that you don’t want to talk to her about it.
Post # 5
You’re not going to change her personality, but there is one easy solution: don’t share all the details with her! Keep the wedding talk general, and don’t give her the opportunity to put your ideas down. Unfortunately some brides do this to feel better about their own weddings. If she keeps bugging your for details, I like @laboroflove’s solution.
Also, if she insists on showing off how great her wedding will be, I would politely remind her how lucky she is to have her parents pay. Honestly, I think some brides who don’t pay for the wedding themselves have this idea that THEIR parents are paying because they love their daughter and dream of giving her a perfect day. But in reality, it’s just luck – they happen to be lucky and have wealthier parents. I don’t think it would be rude to remind her of that so she stops showing off!