(Closed) She's gone and I didn't get to say goodbye.

posted 6 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
1428 posts
Bumble bee

I am so sad for you!!! We have an almost 15 year old cat, and while I know she’s not going to with us for ever, I just can’t imagine our life without her. I know it sucks, (had my dog go to Heaven 2 years ago), but you have to grieve her, in whatever way you do, whether it’s crying, running, walking, whatever. It was helpful to me ( I did the walking at 5am in my neighborhood, and lots of crying, BUT I also encountered dogs & cats during my walks, which actually made me feel happy…animals tend to be more cognizant of sadness).

I know it’s awful right now for you (((hugs))) but try to think about the positive, happy, funny times with your darling, furry kid. My heart is sad for you, crying it out, (for me) helps, as well as remembering what a great mom you were to your darling cat, you have to try to focus on that, about what a wonderful happy life she had because of you being her mom. (((Hugs))) to you!!!

Post # 5
11390 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Thinking of you and yours! BIG HUGS!!!!!!!!!

Post # 6
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m so sorry ๐Ÿ™ Know she isn’t in pain anymore. Hugs!!

Post # 7
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I know just how you feel, my cat passed when I was not there and it was so hard. Please know that she loved you, and even if you couldn’t be there at the end, I’m sure she knew you loved her too!

Now if I were you, I’d wake up your FH and tell him, being this sad is tough but at least its a little better when there is someone with you who understands!

Hang in there sweetie! big hugs to you!

Post # 9
3241 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

The only downside to having a pet is that they don’t live as long as we do. She knew that you loved her, even if you couldn’t be there. They definitely become part of the family and it’s hard to let go. I know it hurts and reaching out to your Fiance might help you feel better.



Post # 10
2359 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ohhhh!   So sorry for your loss.  

I have two 13 year old cats and I will be absolutely devastated when they leave me.  I can’t fathom them not being here.  

i can’t say anything to make you feel better but i know your kitty knows how much she was loved.  

Post # 11
3571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m so sorry for your loss. My family cat just died a few months ago too and it has been pretty hard. Like you, we got our furry guy when I was 10 or 11 and he was about 15.  Your cat loved you, and you don’t have to feel bad about not saying bye. *hugs*  hang in there.

Post # 12
1289 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I am so sorry.  I was devestated when my little baby passed away.  He died of FIP and he didn’t even make it to a year old.  I still cry when I think about it.  Someone sent this poem to me when I was grieving and it helped.  It seemed silly, but for some reason I could picture him healthy and playing again.  I hope it does the same for you.  Remember your baby at her healthiest and happiest!


Post # 13
292 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m very sorry for your loss. I know it hurts that you couldn’t be there, but she knew that you loved her very much.

Post # 14
569 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am so sorry – losing a pet hurts so bad.

Just remember you gave her a wonderful life. She was happy and loved. It sucks so much that you’ve lost her, but remember that you made her life so good.

Post # 15
2825 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m so sorry.  Nothing ever makes losing a pet easier, but know that you and your family gave her a long and happy life filled with love.  She’s in a better place now and isn’t in pain anymore.  Take comfort in that!

Post # 16
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

So sorry for your loss… ๐Ÿ™

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