Post # 1
This morning my cat passed away.
She was technically our family cat but with age differences between siblings with me being the youngest and I lived with my parents to a much older age than my sisters, she basically was my baby.
I moved out of my parents house a little over a year ago and honestly moving away from her was the hardest part for me.
She is old and apparently had gotten very sick very rapidly through the night and my mom took her to an emergency vet this morning and they couldn’t help her and she was in pain so they put her down.
We got her as a tiny kitten (runt of the litter, weighing less than a pound) when I was 10 years old. She was 16 so she lived a pretty long life.
During the time my fiance and I dated while I was still living at my parents they definitely bonded, she loved him almost immediately. I still haven’t told him. I am still coming to terms with this personally and haven’t been able to say it out loud yet that she is gone.
She was the closest I’ve ever come to having a child at this point. I even have a framed picture of her here at our apartment and I just painted a ceramic cat coffee mug to look like her a few weeks ago.
This is so hard. I held it in all day because I didn’t want my fiance to know something was up and now that hes asleep I can’t stop crying.
I’ve missed her so much as it is living away from her but at least then I could just go to my parents house and see her. Now I will never be able to see her, and pet her, and listen to her purr ever again.
I just needed to let this out. I’m sure it got long, I just didn’t know where else to turn.
Post # 3
I am so sad for you!!! We have an almost 15 year old cat, and while I know she’s not going to with us for ever, I just can’t imagine our life without her. I know it sucks, (had my dog go to Heaven 2 years ago), but you have to grieve her, in whatever way you do, whether it’s crying, running, walking, whatever. It was helpful to me ( I did the walking at 5am in my neighborhood, and lots of crying, BUT I also encountered dogs & cats during my walks, which actually made me feel happy…animals tend to be more cognizant of sadness).
I know it’s awful right now for you (((hugs))) but try to think about the positive, happy, funny times with your darling, furry kid. My heart is sad for you, crying it out, (for me) helps, as well as remembering what a great mom you were to your darling cat, you have to try to focus on that, about what a wonderful happy life she had because of you being her mom. (((Hugs))) to you!!!
Post # 4
Thank you, I never thought it would be so hard.
I think what is making this so much harder for me right now is that I didn’t get be with her when she went, I wish I could have held her and rubbed her chin and scratched her behind the ears.
Post # 5
Thinking of you and yours! BIG HUGS!!!!!!!!!
Post # 6
I’m so sorry 🙁 Know she isn’t in pain anymore. Hugs!!
Post # 7
I know just how you feel, my cat passed when I was not there and it was so hard. Please know that she loved you, and even if you couldn’t be there at the end, I’m sure she knew you loved her too!
Now if I were you, I’d wake up your FH and tell him, being this sad is tough but at least its a little better when there is someone with you who understands!
Hang in there sweetie! big hugs to you!
Post # 8
I’m going to try to tell him tomorrow. I wouldn’t feel right waking him up so I could tell him something so awful.
This picture is a couple years old:
RIP Titania…I miss you so much already 🙁
Post # 9
The only downside to having a pet is that they don’t live as long as we do. She knew that you loved her, even if you couldn’t be there. They definitely become part of the family and it’s hard to let go. I know it hurts and reaching out to your Fiance might help you feel better.
Post # 10
Ohhhh! So sorry for your loss.
I have two 13 year old cats and I will be absolutely devastated when they leave me. I can’t fathom them not being here.
i can’t say anything to make you feel better but i know your kitty knows how much she was loved.
Post # 11
I’m so sorry for your loss. My family cat just died a few months ago too and it has been pretty hard. Like you, we got our furry guy when I was 10 or 11 and he was about 15. Your cat loved you, and you don’t have to feel bad about not saying bye. *hugs* hang in there.
Post # 12
I am so sorry. I was devestated when my little baby passed away. He died of FIP and he didn’t even make it to a year old. I still cry when I think about it. Someone sent this poem to me when I was grieving and it helped. It seemed silly, but for some reason I could picture him healthy and playing again. I hope it does the same for you. Remember your baby at her healthiest and happiest!
Post # 13
I’m very sorry for your loss. I know it hurts that you couldn’t be there, but she knew that you loved her very much.
Post # 14
I am so sorry – losing a pet hurts so bad.
Just remember you gave her a wonderful life. She was happy and loved. It sucks so much that you’ve lost her, but remember that you made her life so good.
Post # 15
I’m so sorry. Nothing ever makes losing a pet easier, but know that you and your family gave her a long and happy life filled with love. She’s in a better place now and isn’t in pain anymore. Take comfort in that!
Post # 16
So sorry for your loss… 🙁