She's gonna hate her bachelorette party – what would you do?

posted 6 months ago in Traditions
Post # 2
789 posts
Busy bee

I’d tell her, but that’s me coming from the angle that I’d detest that too, and I’d want someone to warn me. If I was Jill I would walk out the moment I twigged what it was. 

Post # 3
2763 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I would warn her if nothing else. That all sounds horrible to me too and something I’d hate as well. At least she’ll have a heads up and can tell her MOH no. 

Post # 4
4046 posts
Honey bee

If you tie someone to a chair, against her will, isn’t that against the law?

That whole scenario would be friendship ending, with the MOH, to me.

Post # 5
2926 posts
Sugar bee

aventurin :  Omg, I would leave if I got tied to a chair with strippers. That sounds like a nightmare. I’m not sure perhaps give her a heads up about the strippers. 


Post # 6
5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

I would no longer have a moh

Post # 7
1341 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I see nothing wrong with telling her, especially since she told her MOH everything she doesn’t want , and MOH did it anyways.  Who does that?  It’s probably MOH’s style, and she doesn’t get that other people wouldn’t like it.

Post # 8
10127 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Why didn’t the FI say something? That bothers me more than the rediculous MOH

Post # 9
515 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would call her and say you don’t want to spoil the surprise but you’re worried she won’t enjoy it and is there anything she’d hate and want warning about. This then starts the conversation and she can lead it in regards to how much she finds out.

i would have been fuming with my now husband and my bridesmaids who were the closest girls to me!

Post # 10
439 posts
Helper bee

 Well…at least Jill has time to find a new MOH. Id definitely tell, no matter how I knew her. Also, if it were me I’d really be reconsidering marrying a guy that knew and didn’t do anything to stop it. Let’s face it, if he really wanted to keep her from experiencing that he could. 

Post # 11
122 posts
Blushing bee

aventurin :  I hate those things as well. How inconsiderate of the MOH but unfortunately it seem (from what I saw and heard) the best man and the MOH often organize the bachelor/bachelorette to what they themselves want to do. In my opinion, it is a selfish act. One of the groom that I was working for told me he told his best man he didn’t want strippers or anything like that, he is a sport guy and he wanted to play golf or fishing or something with his best mates. His best man wanted to have a stripper party, the whole thing so he organize the later.

If I was in your position I will give her a head up and warn her so she can decide for herself if she will goes with it or not. If I was her, I would walk out as soon as I understood what will happen and it will probably be ending our friendship our at the very least strained.

So what happens? Did you told her? Did she walk out or got through this?

Post # 12
1703 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

You did all you can and more. Telling her in advance is really not your role. Her FI should have stepped in. Just bring your own car to the event and be prepared to work her out if requested. 

Post # 13
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I would be upset. MOH sounds horrible. We probably wouldn’t be friends after this and DH would wish he had told me after the fact because he’d hear about it for a while. 


What is it with people doing things for themselves and not for the people they’re supposed to be for?

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