Post # 1
To those who recognized that the above lyrics are from Ms. Taylor Swift, kudos!
Now for something a bit more serious: Ever since I’ve started dating Mr. Dizbee, I’ve had this little…problem. Namely, his ex. His ex that he dated for like 5 years and was almost engaged to before she decided to become a drunk, drug addicted hobag. She broke up with him, but proceeded to toy with him for an entire year. The spring before he met me (we met in the fall), he told her he was done with her and stopped talking to her, to which she basically replied “pfft whateves.”
The funny thing is, the second he changed his relationship status, she gets this sudden miraculous inspiration that they just NEEEEEEEED to be friends! She sent him a text that day with a fakeass congratulations, followed by more texts and fb messages over the next couple of weeks boohooing about how they’ve “grown apart” (after she pushed him away) and she “misses him” (the second she feels like he’s not on hold for her anymore) and “wants to see him” (to manipulate him into being her emotional punching bag again). He showed me every single message and only replied to the first with a “no.” But it still left a bad taste in my mouth because I felt like I haven’t seen the last of her. SUpposedly she hasn’t contacted him since November to “wish him a happy birthday…and PLEASE PLEASE CAN WE MEET FOR “COFFEE”???
Flash forward to this morning. Mr. Dizbee left for some kind of scouts meeting and I was on my fb, about to message his mom about meeting up this week. I go to his mom’s profile and see she’s written on his ex’s wall. Just one word: “Seriously?” This immediately sent off panic bells because according to Mr. Dizbee, his mom loathes her and hasn’t spoken to her since the official breakup a year ago. Why is she talking to her now? And why did she say “seriously?”? I’m worried the ex is up to her old tricks again and worse, Mr. Dizbee hasn’t told me.
Or I could be completely misinterpreting. It was just one word afterall and I don’t want to stir up drama or be a Paranoid Polly. Please girls, I love this man and want to trust him but I’m really, really fighting the urge to snoop.
Post # 3
If he’s denied her and his mom hates her, I really don’t think you have anything to worry about. Maybe she’s been crazy contacting him again and he figured he could deal with it without having to drag you into the drama? If you’re really concerned, ask him if he’s heard from her recently. But I don’t think it’d be a good idea to snoop at ALL considering he’s been firm in the past with his shut-downs of the ex.
Post # 4
Just ignore her. Giving her more attention only keeps her “around”.
Your bf has been very open and honest with you, don’t ruin that by snooping. Take the high road and show your guy why you’re the one for him by being a better person than his ex.
And avoid drama on Facebook, it’s just immature.
Post # 5
Agree with the other posters, I really dont see her as a threat to you at all.
Post # 6
Why are they still friends with her on fb?
Post # 7
Perhaps she’s given up on trying to get to him directly and is trying to pull his mom into it instead. Sort of a …if I get her on my side maybe I can get to her son..kinda thing Maybe his mom was just replying to her attempts. I would also say don’t snoop. He’s been honest with you to this piont and it’s entirely possible he doesn’t know anything about it. Either ask his mom directly by saying you were on FB and saw her post…a detached just curoius thing…..or ask your sweetie directly. I honeslty don’t think he’d be honest about it in the beginning and then hide it on purpose now. …good luck
Post # 8
I know….I think the big problem is she’s a good bit younger than him and really immature, plus her life sucks now (which she complained to him about in one of her texts) especially since he’s not there to police her and force her to be a grownup (make sure she goes to class and work instead of sleeping in until 4pm with a hangover). It just makes me worried that even if he never bites, I don’t know how long she’s going to be around trying to stir up trouble. So far he’s given me no reason not to trust him, so until he gives me a reason I’m going to stay out of it.
Post # 9
his ex sounds like a needy, desperate, attention-seeking, manipulating girl with low self-esteem. (we had a similar situation).
i know you want to trust your partner but this fb post is making it really hard. you can try to ignore it, or if you are someone who needs finality to move forward, maybe ask his mom. i am not sure what your relationship with his mom is like but (if you are close) you just mention to her that you saw it on her wall and found it odd. don’t sound like you’re interrogating her. ask if this is a normal thing? if it is, you may consider mentioning to his mom how much drama this girl is causing her son. a mother will always protect her son.
Post # 10
I have no input, but as someone with a Swift-inspired user name, I just had to let you know that your thread title made me smile lol.
Post # 11
If he really wants the attention from her to stop, he’ll block her or change his number so she can stop texting, and block her on facebook. Same for his mother speaking to her at all. Which I hope happens. This is some high school drama.
Post # 12
She needs to be unfriended and blocked on Facebook. Also, he needs to call his phone carrier and block her number. Done and done.
Post # 13
Yea I don’t think you personally have anything to worry about but I agree with everyone else on saying they don’t need to all facebook friends lol. That’s just weird to me. My So isn’t friends with any of his serious ex’s on FB for this exact reason. They all go crazy when they see stuff about us on there!
My SO’s ex…is a total crazy pants! Druggie too, slutty…a liar…a complete B*TCH to him. EW. When we started dating, she was going crazy. Calling him, texting him, telling him can’t they still have sex, please come on, yada yada. Totally grossed me out hahaha. I was like have some respect woman, he is with someone else and NO he will not have sex with yoU! ew! But yea…every now and then she’ll hit him up asking him if he’s in town or if he wants to meet up with her. She’s pretty foul. But whatever, I have nothing to worry about I just want to ring her neck sometimes for not moving on. It’s been 3 years! lol
Post # 14
I’m sorry but if he really wanted this to stop he would have put a stop to it a long time ago. Deleting and blocking someone and having their number blocked is very easy to do. If it bothers you this much then tell him. Keeping quiet and worrying to yourself will do nothing. If you talk to him and he still does not put an end to it once and for all then you need to decide what you want to do