(Closed) She’s not a saint and she’s not what you think…

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
2755 posts
Sugar bee

If he’s denied her and his mom hates her, I really don’t think you have anything to worry about. Maybe she’s been crazy contacting him again and he figured he could deal with it without having to drag you into the drama? If you’re really concerned, ask him if he’s heard from her recently. But I don’t think it’d be a good idea to snoop at ALL considering he’s been firm in the past with his shut-downs of the ex.

Post # 4
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Just ignore her. Giving her more attention only keeps her “around”. 

Your bf has been very open and honest with you, don’t ruin that by snooping. Take the high road and show your guy why you’re the one for him by being a better person than his ex. 


And avoid drama on Facebook, it’s just immature.

Post # 5
2459 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Agree with the other posters, I really dont see her as a threat to you at all.

Post # 6
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Why are they still friends with her on fb?

Post # 7
598 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Perhaps she’s given up on trying to get to him directly and is trying to pull his mom into it instead.  Sort of a …if I get her on my side maybe I can get to her son..kinda thing  Maybe his mom was just replying to her attempts.   I would also say don’t snoop.  He’s been honest with you to this piont and it’s entirely possible he doesn’t know anything about it.  Either ask his mom directly by saying you were on FB and saw her post…a detached just curoius thing…..or ask your sweetie directly. I honeslty don’t think he’d be honest about it in the beginning and then hide it on purpose now. …good luck

Post # 9
11271 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

his ex sounds like a needy, desperate, attention-seeking, manipulating girl with low self-esteem.  (we had a similar situation). 

i know you want to trust your partner but this fb post is making it really hard.  you can try to ignore it, or if you are someone who needs finality to move forward, maybe ask his mom.  i am not sure what your relationship with his mom is like but (if you are close) you just mention to her that you saw it on her wall and found it odd.  don’t sound like you’re interrogating her. ask if this is a normal thing?  if it is, you may consider mentioning to his mom how much drama this girl is causing her son.  a mother will always protect her son.

good luck

Post # 10
826 posts
Busy bee

I have no input, but as someone with a Swift-inspired user name, I just had to let you know that your thread title made me smile lol.

Post # 11
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

If he really wants the attention from her to stop, he’ll block her or change his number so she can stop texting, and block her on facebook. Same for his mother speaking to her at all. Which I hope happens. This is some high school drama.

Post # 12
2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

She needs to be unfriended and blocked on Facebook. Also, he needs to call his phone carrier and block her number. Done and done. 

Post # 13
1133 posts
Bumble bee

Yea I don’t think you personally have anything to worry about but I agree with everyone else on saying they don’t need to all facebook friends lol. That’s just weird to me. My So isn’t friends with any of his serious ex’s on FB for this exact reason. They all go crazy when they see stuff about us on there!

My SO’s ex…is a total crazy pants! Druggie too, slutty…a liar…a complete B*TCH to him. EW. When we started dating, she was going crazy. Calling him, texting him, telling him can’t they still have sex, please come on, yada yada. Totally grossed me out hahaha. I was like have some respect woman, he is with someone else and NO he will not have sex with yoU! ew! But yea…every now and then she’ll hit him up asking him if he’s in town or if he wants to meet up with her. She’s pretty foul. But whatever, I have nothing to worry about I just want to ring her neck sometimes for not moving on. It’s been 3 years! lol

Post # 14
858 posts
Busy bee

I’m sorry but if he really wanted this to stop he would have put a stop to it a long time ago. Deleting and blocking someone and having their number blocked is very easy to do. If it bothers you this much then tell him. Keeping quiet and worrying to yourself will do nothing. If you talk to him and he still does not put an end to it once and for all then you need to decide what you want to do

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