Post # 1
When I got engaged, my Future Sister-In-Law had already been engaged for 2 years. A few months after, she asks us when our wedding is going to be, as she wanted to get married in the summer. This threw my Fiance off, as he said he asked her and she said the wedding was ‘the last think on her mind” He assumed I’d be angry.
Fast forward a bit more, and our date is May 5th and she says they need to save, and are going to wait until 2014. But she’s been doing a lot of planning, shopping, and talking about it. I keep getting these email from family members along the lines of
“I heard MissIceFlower just bought her dress, wanted to know if you’re doing Ok. You wedding is important to us too ::hug::, I don’t know why she’s doing this”
Why she’s doing what, planning her wedding? Maybe becasue she’s getting married?
So she’s getting married? Woo Hoo!! As long as it’s not on May 5th, I don’t care when she does it. She can get married at my bridal shower in a replica of my dress and that Ok. It really doesn’t bother me.
All these emails and updates about her planning and how I should be jealous are pissing me off. Go away drama llamas.
wtf isup with family. We’re all in that stage of life-getting married, having babies. It’s not a race or a compitition people.
Post # 3
That is annoying, but I guess it’s better to have a family that’s overly concerned about your feelings than completely disregards them.
Post # 4
Wow, that is really weird that they are so concerned. Almost like trying to stir up drama perhaps. Some people thrive for those triangular relationships – where they talk about someone else with you.
Post # 5
And also, good for you. 🙂 Keep on doing what you’re doing- you’re having a wonderful attitude about the whole thing, even if the rest of the family has gone a little bit nutter butters.
Maybe once everyone else sees how unconcerned you are, they’ll chill down and stop thinking about it so much as well.
Post # 6
@sienna76: it is, right? That was my first thought too- drama llamas
@MissHobbit: I guess, but after the 10th email, you’d think they’d GET the point. lol
Post # 7
@MissFireFlower: Will trade my probably off her rocker aunt with a fake engagement for your semi concerned family??? Sounds fun doesnt it?
Post # 8
@MissFireFlower: Lol Drama Llamas!! Love this! I will need to use this now! People just love drama and are basically just trying to start things that arent there. Jjust ignore it.
Post # 9
I would defuse this by being relentlessly positive about it: “Oh, that’s wonderful, I’m so happy she found a dress! That’s a big relief when you can cross it off the to-do list,” etc.
Post # 10
Weird looks like they are stirring up the shit, either that or that had some former family members who went off the rails when something similar happen. Anyways so weird.
Post # 11
Weddings & Funerals always bring out the worst in people!
Post # 12
@TexasSpringBride: it would be fun to trade for one day! I’d have fun messing with them 😀
Post # 13
It’s nice that they’re concerned — from reading these boards, I’ve learned that a lot of women do get upset about this kind of thing.
You are very cool for not being upset. Too much sympathy when you don’t need it is annoying, though. Tell them thanks for the concern, but you’re fine — really!!
Post # 14
How trivial and annoying. That would drive me bonkers.
Post # 15
Some women flip their shit if anyone they know gets married or announces an engagement or pregnancy within a year either way of THEIR DAY. I would be annoyed with my family too if they assumed that that was going to be me, but it’s a thing.
Post # 16
@TwoCityBride: Definitely stirring the pot and so unnecessary.
I also find it weird how some brides who didn’t think about their weddings suddenly get the planning bug when another person close starts planning. My Future Sister-In-Law did that – was engaged in early 2010 and had no plans to get married until she found out at the beginning of this year that we had plans and booked a place. It literally turned into a race for her at that point. She planned her wedding in 6 months to make sure she was married before us and it was sooooooo annoying to have her keep calling my Fiance to ask him what WE were doing concerning our wedding. I was so happy the day her wedding came. Since then, peace has returned.
OP, I am glad you aren’t having an issue like that. Your Future Sister-In-Law has every right to plan her wedding, I just find it annoying in a situation like mine.