Wow, there are some crazies out there! ny88 you are a saint!
I’m planning on starting counseling soon to learn to deal with my Future Mother-In-Law…
After Fiance and I had been together for about a year, I finally met his grandparents (who apparently had made his brother’s girlfriend cry when she met them). They were wonderfully sweet to me, despite FMIL’S attempts to trigger them.
Within minutes of me being in their home for brunch, I’m offered a drink (alcoholic) and Future Mother-In-Law says, “Oh, you don’t have to ask, redfishbluefish is an alcoholic.” FGMIL gets a concerned look on her face, so I did my best to just brush it off as a joke. But, Future Mother-In-Law doesn’t stop there, and goes on to mention how I am not Catholic and how Fiance and I live together (this was after Future Mother-In-Law warned us not to mention these things as it was thought the very conservative grandparents may be upset by them). These weren’t things that I intended to hide, but it was very clear Future Mother-In-Law wanted to start drama by the way she brought them up. She still calls me an alcoholic regularly.
She told us our children will be raised Catholic and will go to Catholic school because we will not make the mistake of not getting them baptized. Because I hadn’t been baptized as a child and had to get baptized as an adult in order for my Fiance to have his Catholic wedding..
She has mentioned my mom’s weight to me a few times, and makes nasty comments frequently about overweight people.
Luckily most of the things she says are said to Fiance behind my back. The things she says directly to me are very passive aggressive.
She has budged in front of me in lines in order to pay for my things, despite my objections.
She continues to bring up the pact Fiance made with a friend, I’ll call her Em, (one of those, if we arent married by 30 let’s marry each other things). Fiance tells me after a visit to his parents: “Em was visiting and my parents took off on a very long late night walk leaving us alone. By the time they got back, it was late, so Future Mother-In-Law asked Em if she wanted to stay the night. Future Mother-In-Law said Em, you can stay in FI’s room with him. You can do overs-unders with the sheets.” They have a guest room.
She has accused me of controlling my Fiance… she has recently been complaining about how the wedding is all about me and my family, and how I keep getting my way (which is why we’re having it in their church of choice, in FI’S hometown? My bad for buying a cake topper that I liked!)
She threw a fit when we got a 1 bedroom apartment because “where will I sleep when I visit? In your huge kitchen? You don’t even cook!” She had actually tried to get us to rent a 2 bedroom, saying she’d pay the difference in price.
When I gave up my hobby (which is also her hobby) in order to move in with Fiance, she lectured me about how she would never give it up, even if it meant living in a tent… Now that I’ve picked it back up, she tells my Fiance, “if she’s going to put her hobby before the wedding you shouldn’t marry her,” this coming from the woman who threatens suicide if it is even mentioned she consider cutting back on this hobby.
She’s legit crazy! Future Father-In-Law is pretty chill, but according to her, he also hates me. The whole family unfortunately makes racist and classist comments, and judges by the most superficial standards. I turn the other cheek now, but will not do so for much longer.