(Closed) Shocked, and have no one else to tell!!

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Vaginismus, is what I’m guessing she’s referring to. So glad she’s getting treatment that will hopefully make things better for her 🙂

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Wow! I hope everything works out for them.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012 - Hacienda los Agaves

Wow, how sad they’ve gone through this. i’m so glad she’s getting treatment, hopefully everything will work out.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m getting better! 🙂

Its not too terribly uncommon, but you are right–rarely spoken of. Many women have it from the get go of trying to have sex ( usually from a religious upbringing or past trauma)

Others, like me, can have sex fine for years then wham! it doesnt work any more. It takes time and dedication, but it can improve.

Please tell her that she isn’t alone, and direct her to the bee for support if need be. There are probably many posts on the topic if you use the search function

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Roe:  

really??! Out of nowhere, that’s a scary thought

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I really, really hope this new treatment works for her. What a difficult thing to have to work through.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@sunnywoods:  I’ve had guesses to the cause of mine, but never 100% sure on them.

I had been assaulted years before when I was still a virgin, but my SO and I had good sex after that just fine for a longgg time. So although a history of sexual assault is a common cause for many, I’m doubtful of it having much of an impact in my scenario.

More likely, I think, is that I had a series of 4 or 5 really painful UTIs in a row. I avoided sex for a while because if it and it started shortly after that.

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