Post # 1
I’ve been looking for and trying out a bunch of shoes for my wedding dress. I found the perfect pair the other day. They’re seriously so beautiful in person, but they’re also going to kill my feet. I’m not even sure if I’ll be able to tolerate them for the ceremony, photos and dinner. I’d originally been looking at wedges or ankle boots, and while I’ve found a lot that I like, they’re all very casual for a wedding. For instance, I just tried these, and they’re comfortable as hell and very my style, but not very wedding-like.
That’s been my main dilemma: either suck it up and wear beautiful wedding shoes that will kill my feet (but will make me look tall), or be comfortable and wear unique shoes that are more in-line to my day-to-day style. The (rational) answer seems obvious to me (comfortable), but for some reason I can’t let go of the BCBG shoes I found and feel like I should wear something really nice for a once-in-a-lifetime occasion. I was wondering how you girls settled on your shoes? Did you pick comfort over looks, or vice versa?
P.S. This is my dress for reference: Front and back
Post # 3
@jiayi: Honestly, I really like the ankle boots. If it’s in your budget, you could get both and just change into the boots once your feet start hurting. However, if the BCBG ones are not comfortable, it just might not be worth it. The last thing you would want is to be saying your vows and thinking “Gosh, my feet hurt. I should have gotten the boots!” Lol.
I ended up getting somewhat comfy super tall ones for the ceremony and less cute more casual wedges for the reception from modcloth.com. I hope this helps! I was struggling with the shoe issue too!
Post # 4
@jiayi: P.S. Your dress is beautiful!
Post # 5
Thank you. 🙂 Luckily, I ordered the BCBG ones off Zappos, so I have time to make a decision in case I want to return them. I’m keeping an eye out for shoes that will fit all my criteria, but it’s getting tiring at this point. I might have to practice in them and hope I get used to them, but I’ll definitely need comfier shoes for the reception. Right now, I can’t even last 10 minutes in them, and I’m afraid of tripping down the aisle. I’ve heard the smaller the shoe size, the more severe the arch the height of the heel creates. 🙁 It feels super severe for me, but I think it’s also because I’m not used to them (or any kind of stilettos for that matter).
Post # 6
@jiayi: IMO, shoes should always be comfortable regardless of the occasion. I’m probably one of the few women who feel this way, but I just find it silly to buy something you know you’re going to be uncomfortable in. I spent about 2 days looking for wedding shoes and have decided upon a nice pair of blingy flip flops that I know I’ll be able to wear the entire night without regret. In my situation though, my fiancé is only a little taller than I am, so I needed flat shoes. 🙂
Post # 7
I would get the BCBG shoes. I would wear them around your house and during times when you can walk around for awhile and break them in. This will give you a chance to work through some of the pain when first wearing any pair of shoes, and figure out which parts will give you the most discomfort. You can then perhaps buy an insert that can specially target that area to give you more comfort, etc. I think the shoes will go very nicely with your dress, and I think there is also an easy way around having to be in agonizing pain. Heels will never be the most comfortable shoes out there obviously, but I think you can get through the major parts of a special event with them if you plan ahead properly.
Post # 8
@jiayi: Wow those BCBG shoes are amazing. I’m normally all about comfort over looks, but those shoes would probably make me change my mind lol. I can definitely see why you’re having a hard time choosing.
Post # 9
Those stilettos look deadly. If you aren’t accustomed to walking in them, especially in a long dress, it will be really easy to trip, fall, and hurt yourself. Doubly so if your ceremony is outdoors or anywhere with uneven floors. Personally, while those shoes are gorgeous, I’d look for a wedge or something lower to wear for the ceremony, and flats for the reception. You’re going to be doing a lot of standing for the ceremony and walking down the aisle and back, and for pictures, etc. If your shoes are killing you, it’ll show in your face in the pictures. I’d go for something way more comfortable in order to have some confidence in my ability to get through the ceremony et al without being in pain or falling. But I don’t wear stilettos, and can’t imagine doing so, not even for my wedding.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Go for comfort. Looks are nice, but they won’t get you through hours on your feet.
Post # 11
I’d say return them and buy a pair of Angela Nuran shoes. There are lots of reviews on this site from brides who say they were the best purchase they made related to the wedding. I think they have some gorgeous options – so you get comfort, style, and your heel height. I bought a preowned pair to wear with my dress. No way I’m going to be in pain the whole day!!
Post # 12
Wow, thanks for all your help, Bees. I’ve decided to return the BCBG pair I bought. I couldn’t even practice walking and standing in them for more than 20 minutes without my feet feeling crippled. It’s hard to let them go, since they’re so beautiful, but I think I’ve found a pair of Badgley Mischka replacements. I tried them on at a DSW near me and they’re worlds more comfortable that the BCBG ones. I can actually see myself wearing them throughout the ceremony and dinner and maybe slipping into flats for dancing.
Post # 13
Angela Nuran. Her shoes are ballroom dance shoes and amazingly comfortable yet still gorgeous! They tend to be a bit pricey but soo worth it. Plus if you shop around you may be able to find someone selling their old ones!