(Closed) Shoes on or off? (spinoff)

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

Me and my family, shoeless! We’re vietnamese so it’s pretty standard. My fiance and his family, shoes! He’s white/mexican and they usually wear shoes in the house. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Not as much of an emphasis, I would rather guests keep their shoes on. Its embarrassing when I didn’t realize I will need to take my shoes off at someone else’s home and I have a hole in the toe, don’t want our guests to have the same situation. Dog fur makes the hardwood and carpet much dirtier than shoes anyway. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Shoes off! And when I’m at home socks off too, though I try to make sure I’m wearing socks when my shoes will have to be off anywhere else. I live in a cold, often wet climate, and wearing shoes in the house creates a huge mess. DH agrees with me and we always go shoeless. His family however is a little bit different. Mother-In-Law is crazy about keeping her floors literally spotless, so they NEVER wear the same shoes in the house that they did outside, even if they’re just walking 2 steps. However, they have seperate indoor shoes that they always wear, because apparently even socks leave marks on the floor. I find it very weird but go along with it to keep the peace. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Shoes off! Chinese background here and shoes Carry so much dirt and bacteria from the outside! I vacuum my floor obsessively and disinfect with vinegar so it is very sterile to walk on, I also provide slippers for those who need some coverage. When I host a large party with mixed cultures I put a sign at door asking for shoes off 

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t walk around anywhere but my own home shoeless. Gross. Just no. The thought creeps me out. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

I always have some form of shoes on unless I’m going to someone’s home and they have a shoe off policy. I just don’t like being barefoot. At home I usually wear slippers and sometimes even with socks still on.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i don’t usually wear shoes in the carpeted area of my home, but that’s more out of comfort than anything else. in our tiled areas, i wear shoes/slippers.

we don’t make people take their shoes off when they visit. when i go to other people’s homes, i tend to follow their lead, but usually i’m not expected/asked to remove my shoes unless it’s a cultural thing.

people can be self-conscious about their feet- they may have issues with foot odor, toenail fungus, “ugly” feet, etc- and i wouldn’t want to make any guests feel uncomfortable.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

In my home, it just depends on whether I put on shoes, slippers, and/or socks so far that day, and whether I decided to take them off after that. Visitors tend to mostly wear shoes, and I don’t care.

I’ve worked two jobs as a nanny in homes that generally limited inside to slippers, socks, or nothing, so I just always wore shoes that were easy to get on and off and made sure my socks or bare feet were presentable.

I like the idea of a no-shoe home but it’s just easier to do whatever in my own house and I’m lazy.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Shoes off at home. We ask guests to do the same. We sometimes have newborn kittens, so practicing good hygiene is important. We disinfect our feet before we go into the kitten room, but having less outside dirt in the house helps.

I happily take them off when I go to someone else’s house too.

The exception is for parties and larger gatherings. We’re not going to ask people to take their shoes off in that instance. We’ll just vacuum and mop when everyone has gone.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Culture states shoes off.  I keep my floors spotless for a reason, and it’s not nice to dirty up the floor that the host spends hours cleaning.  I tell everyone and most of my guests know what’s up.  

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Shoes off I’m in Australia and most if not all people have shoes off households in winter when i just make sure I’m wearing think socks when I go to peoples houses

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

It’s very much the norm here to keep shoes on (or, at least, it was when I was growing up, IME). However, after spending time in Asia then I always, always remove mine now, and I’m pleased to say that this does appear to be becoming increasingly common. I never thought twice about it before living in Asia, but now then I agree with the Asians… it is a filthy habit to wear shoes in the house. I also think that the Turks and the Germans have it right by wearing house slippers with sticky bottoms so they don’t slip on hard floors.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

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BubblesandCupcakes:  SQUEEEEEE! Kittens! How old?

I also agree with you about parties. Our home is the size of a postage stamp, and we use our back garden when we host. If we required guests to take their shoes on and off every time they moved between the garden and the house, this would soon become ridiculous. We just clean afterwards.

For any other time, however, I just remove my shoes at the door and hope that everyone else takes the hint!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

We have a tiled floor in the entry. The living room off of that is carpet. So it has a nice setup for shoes to be taken off at the entry. We take our shoes off and have house slippers. We also have an extra pair of shoes by the back door if we have to go out back.

I usually will wait to see what the host wants or does when visiting someone I’m not familiar with. 

At my family’s house, everyone usually just keeps their shoes on.

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