Post # 1
Short background: Previously engaged several years ago, went dress shopping with mom & grandma and it was a fiasco. Not only did my entourage influence me to try on “their” style dresses, but my lack of ACTUAL commitment in that relationship just added to my natural indecisiveness.
Present time: Now in a great place and engaged to marry an amazing man next October, but living 1500 miles away from my entire family and have no friends here (yet)…I’m excited to go shopping this week for a dress. But I’ll be alone, and honestly this will just be a test run to narrow down styles. (I hope to shop on a future trip with my mom in December, but want to have SOME sense of what I want by then to avoid a repeat of the chaos). I’ve already told the bridal salon this, in hopes of 1. not wasting their time (I even requested that they give me an appointment at their LEAST busy hours), and 2. lessening the pressure to buy on that day.<br /><br />I’m so indecisive. The only thing I know already is I look terrible in halters and great in sweetheart necklines. Dress websites are so overwhelming. <br /><br />
I know there are other brides that shopped alone, I guess I’m looking to see how your experience went. Do you feel more pressure from the salon? Or is it easier?
Post # 2
I shopped by myself and I think it’s a lot in how you portray yourself and how you feel about it. It never bothered me that I was doing it alone. I was happy and knew I didn’t want a huge fuss so it was more practical for me. They were pretty helpful. Then the second time I went in there was this girl who was kind of quiet and shy. This one lady tried to make her feel guilty…asking her why her mom wasnt there with her…etc. wow. I was blown away. So I think it just comes down to how you feel about it.
Post # 3
i live 3000 miles from my family and close friends and i LOVED shopping alone – it.was.awesome. took as long as i wanted in the ones i loved, hopped out of the ones i didn’t, could be very clear about what i was looking for and my consultant was awesome! as long as you don’t show up moping etc i don’t think the consultant would be wierd. when she asked if anyone was joining me i said ‘nope, just me today!’ with a big smile, and she said ‘awesome! let’s have fun!’
i would totally recommend it 🙂
Post # 4
Great! I’m looking forward to not being rushed. I vow to not mope around! I’ll enjoy having more control!
That’s really terrible that a consultant made her feel guilty….I hope I don’t experience that. I would probably walk out. I don’t want a huge fuss, either, though.
Thank you both! I’m *glad* I get to do it alone, just really was concerned about the consultant’s reactions and how it would steer the appointment. I will just walk in there confident and ready!
Post # 5
I went shopping alone once I was in a good and excited mood I wanted to try on a specific dress that that shop was supposed to have… They didn’t have it. I still made best of it it was no nonsense didn’t have to anylize with anyone else if I didn’t like it I just said nah not for me, and we moved on. One downfamayo me is that they didn’t offer me champaigne or water, and I saw other bridal,parties there where they were pampered… Oh well
Post # 6
If I see champagne and they don’t offer it, someone’s gonna have a bad day! <br /><br />I’m going to try to stay positive no matter what, but this town only has 3 shops that I’ve found. Hopefully I won’t have to travel too far if they don’t have enough selection! I’m excited to try on some of the Disney line by Alfred Angelo. And their sign says they have em……crossing fingers!
Post # 7
I don’t have family in the area and have gone shopping alone, or with 1 or 2 friends along. Most consultants have commented on it; one even asked out of the blue “where’s your mom?” I told her she is dead, and she said “OH, so that’s why you’ve only got your friends here!” as if relieved. However, most consultants understand as soon as I explain that I don’t have family in the area and things go back to “normal”. So I think if you’re ok with it, they’ll be ok with it.
Post # 8
I shopped alone because I didn’t want anyone to pressure me into something I wasn’t comfortable with. It worked out well.
Post # 9
I shopped alone. My family all lives in other cities and I knew I was going to have a longish road to finding a dress I actually liked. I think shopping alone helped me focus on what I really wanted. I did also shop with a friend, and with my sister (I did a lot of looking :)), but I thought shopping alone was great!
Post # 10
I can’t wrap my head around this tradition! I know lots of women love bringing their families and friends, but I can’t imagine doing that.
I’m an adult woman who picks out her own clothes, I generally know what looks good for my body type, and I have my own sense of style. So dragging an entourage around really didn’t add value for me.
Post # 11
I brought my sisters and mom and a bestfriend since childhood. I wouldn’t have had it any other way. They were able to give me honest, critical opinions that really helped me find THE dress. It can be too much by yourself to look at all of the different silhouettes, styles, etc.
If you’re a solo shopper, then don’t go with tradition for tradition’s sake and leave the gal pals at home!
Post # 12
I shopped both alone and with friends, both were great fun. I actually found there was less pressure from the salons when I was alone since I could just let them know that I’d be coming back with friends/family for a second opinion before buying. It really helped me narrow down exactly what I want before I called in the troops to confirm my final choice.
Post # 13
I went shopping by myself bc this is my second wedding and I am not having a bridal party. SO. MUCH. EASIER! And honestly, I had a ton more fun! Before I purchased I brought my mom but her opinion wouldn’t have changed my mind.
Post # 14
I actually loved dress shopping alone. Maybe it’s because I’m an introvert, but I liked being able to form my own thoughts without so many other voices and opinions being thrown at me. I did want “approval” of my dress before I bought it, and made sure my mom and sister had a chance to see me in it before I made a final decision, but I found it much more relaxing to do the early dress shopping trips by myself.
Post # 15
The first few times I took my Maid/Matron of Honor with me, and like you, got influenced by her and the shop owner’s tearful reaction to one of the dresses and ended up buying it. It is a beautiful dress, but not one I envisioned for myself. So after a few months of the nagging feeling that I bought the wrong one, I went to another bridal store on my own (no one else) and tried on my dream dress, fell completely in love, and bought it. My Maid/Matron of Honor was completely against my dream dress when I showed her the online photo, so I went in secret and even after my purchase, kept it to myself because I didn’t want any type of negative feedback to ruin my joy.
I highly recommend going dress shopping on your own. That way you can take the time to figure out what YOU like without anyone trying to pressure/influence you to their own taste.