(Closed) Shopping for rings together

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
398 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

My husband and I did go shopping together. I had a pretty good idea what I wanted but we did window shop together and I tried a few on.  He ultimately selected the diamonds and the settings (it was similar to ones I had selected but not the same).  So the ring ultimately was a pleasant suprise.

I think its a great idea, no one wants to get in an engagement ring that they don’t like ๐Ÿ™‚

Good Luck!

Post # 4
153 posts
Blushing bee

I think I’m a weird case. 

I didn’t shop with my FH prior to the engagement because he wanted it to be a surprise.  I was really worried about that…I had clear ideas of what I wanted in an e-ring. 

Instead, he popped the question with a ring his mum gave him so that I could have the best of both worlds:  surprise proposal and full control over the e-ring.  We’re keeping his mum’s ring as is (I had planned to resize it while looking for the permanent e-ring, but jewelers were worried about structural integrity…3.5 sizes down is a lot).  We plan to keep it for our future kids so that they can propose with it as well.

I think window shopping is a good idea, at least so he can see what looks good on your finger and get your ring size.  You never know, those e-mail pics may not look nice on your finger in real life!


Post # 5
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

We went shoppingn together and I was really glad we did — the things I had been looking at online were pretty different from what I ended up actually liking on my hand.  I had thought I wanted some three stone kind of thing, but when I put them on, absolutely hated the sparkle factor (on me! no offense anybody!) and I ended up liking emerald cuts the most.  We narrowed it down together to a few and then he just picked the actual one.

Post # 6
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

We did! (And I just blogged about it yesterday.) It’s definitely worth it, I think, because as others have said, the things I liked online were different than what I liked in person. I still stuck to a basic style, but things do look different on your finger.

My advice: Definitely put them on, and look at yourself in a MIRROR with it on (they usually have mirrors in the store). See what you look like with it on – don’t just hold your hand out at arms length. I thought that was silly advice until I tried it – and I got butterflies! It’s like "look at me, miss engaged lady!"

Post # 7
2022 posts
Buzzing bee

We did and it was fun.  Not everyone does, though, and I think it depends on the guy.  Some want it to be a complete surprise, some want a little input (ie, show me pictures of what you like online or in magazines…), some want you to shop with them and show them ideas, and some want you to actually pick out your ring.  Fiance wanted me to show him some pictures online and then we went to a shop.  Interestingly, he ended up selecting something really unique (nothing like I’d shown him!) and I love it!

My advice would be to go along with what your Fiance wants to do!  This is one area that I would not suggest being pushy about.  If you do go, gently point him in the direction of styles you like.

Post # 8
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Omg yes. Actually I was so picky it ended up that I had to pick out my own setting. I let him pick out the center stone on his own though. Just tell him that you’re worried he may pick you out something you won’t like, and you have to wear it forever! It’s not that you’re *picking it out*, but it’s good to have input so he knows what you like and what you don’t. In my case, I showed him everything I didn’t like…then showed him the one ring I did like and that i’d change the stones on the very end to princesses instead of pears…ultimately you wanna be happy with it and make sure it looks good on you, too, depending on your ring size and whatnot. Anything dainty and/or vintage simply did not look good on me, whereas the more modern style with traditional stones I felt looked better.

Post # 11
1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Oh- congrats! What a neat twist. I would have taken you shopping, anyway, though if I were the guy trying to surprise you… unless I was afraid you’d like something different from what I had chosen.

Anyway, what a nice ending and I’m glad you have a stunning ring to show for it! Enjoy your engagement!

Post # 12
271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My fiance was not keen on going shopping/looking at rings with me for similar reasons…but when a friend was visiting, she took me in a store and I ended up finding one that i absolutely loved….so I casually told him about it, and where it was…and the next time we went to the mall I showed it to him.  That was the only time we went in a store together…but a month and a half later he proposed to me with my dream ring ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Oh congrats!!…I guess I should have finished reading the messages!

Post # 14
700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Congrats!  The same exact thing happened to me!  We had talked about getting married, and I was afraid of what he would pick out…even though you love it no matter what…I was still afraid.  I offered to give him some shopping ideas if he wanted, but he had already gotten it at that time!


Post # 16
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

We didn’t. I went a few times with my SIL so that she could get a feel for what my style was. He was also very cute and asked about a few rings on other people, "is that sort of what you like, or do you like something else?" …that sort of thing. In the end, he picked out my ring and got my SIL’s stamp of approval, and I love it! it’s always great to have a girl for them to help them with their 4 Cs!

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