(Closed) shopping for your own engagement ring?

posted 8 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I asked my husband if he would like for me to go with him for ring shopping. He was actually relieved! As traditional as he is, he was scared to pick something that I wouldn’t like (turns out he would’ve chosen exactly what I picked); and me suggesting to go with him took pressure off his shoulders.

Ask him if he’d like that, and if he wants to pick alone, see if he would accept you sending links to things you like to give him ideas of styles. But if this is what happens, do not expect to get exactly the same ones you sent, he’ll probably want to put his personal touch as well!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My Fiance and I went ring shopping before he proposed so he could get a sense of what I liked.  Which was a good thing, because what I ended up liking in person, was not what I thought I liked from looking at pics online and in magazines.  I chose the style I liked, and he picked out the actual ring.  I think it would be ok for you to ask him to take you ring shoppping.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

If you guys are comfortable enough to talk about getting married, then it should be easy to bring up the ring sitch.

Just ask him… I am sure he will be relieved and it will help him with direction. My Fiance was really happy I showed him pictures of what I wanted and then left to his own devices for the final decision. He will want to know your taste… he knows you will wear it forever and even if he is traditional he probably doesn’t know very much about jewelery!

Just casually bring it up and say something like “ohh man engagement rings are so fun! there are so many styles that I like, i’ll have to show you some neat ones that I can see wanting!”

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Fiance and I went looking just so he could get an idea my preferences.  That way, it would still be a surprise but he would not buy somethign that was totally off the mark.

Post # 7
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536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We went ring shopping together and I think for me it worked out great!  Even if you guys don’t go out shopping, maybe just show him what styles you like.  This way at least he’d have an idea on what you’d like.  Now if you aren’t sure what you like, I would say take a gf out shopping one day and just try rings on to see what you like the best!  I think you will be fine!  Have fun!!

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I asked my Fiance to take me shopping but he said that would ruin the surprise. So, I just told him my absolutes (no princess or marquis or heart diamonds, no three stone, no yellow gold) and hoped for the best. Luckily he asked my best friend (now MOH) to help and she did a great job!

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you are worried about ruining the surprise then you could look online at jewellers websites and show him the styles you like and explain (in detail!!!) why you like those styles so that he can have a clear idea of what you would like in a ring, and that way its still a surprise because you won’t know which one you are getting.

My fiance took me ring shopping and had me pick out 6 that I liked and then he later went back and picked one so it was still a surprise. He ended up picking my favorite though 🙂

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

my friend is having this same problem right now. she is waiting for the proposal but her SO refuses to take her ring shopping. so instead, we decided to be sneaky and i’ve been giving him hints as to what type of ring she likes. maybe you could do this??

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would just be straight up and talk to him about it.  My bf is very traditional too, but I think he was relieved that he didnt have that stress of picking a ring on his own, and worrying that I might not like it.

And surprisingly, when we did go ring shopping, I didnt like the rings on, that I thought I was going to like, and ended up choosing something totally different.  So I highly recommend you going regardless, even with a friend, who then can drop hints to him LOL.

For me, I truly enjoyed the experience of ring shopping together, and it would be good for him to see what styles you like because I totally agree with you, you have to LOVE it.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My fiance and I looked at rings together for a while. He ultimately chose the ring and surprised me with the proposal. Of course, the ring he chose is the one that I liked the most…so it worked out for both of us.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I think you need to be careful in how you bring it up.  Some guys, and perhaps your Fiance is one of them, put a lot of stock in the proposal and the ring and see it as their chance to really shine.  Implying that you don’t trust him to pick out something you like might be really hurtful, and asking to go shopping intoriduces an element of pressure that could be offputting.

 

 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My fiance and I talked about getting married “casually” for a LONG time. Well, over time we looked at a lot of rings. Well, late last year we went “ring looking” since he was only hinting about a marriage proposal so at this point I wasn’t too sure of what he was planning. I tried on yet another beautiful ring and like all the other times we walked out with no indication of his interest or disinterest. Two months later he shocked me with a proposal with the most gorgeous ring. It was more beautiful than I could have hoped for. He ultimately made the choice himself but knw what I liked and didn’t like. He wanted to surprised me and he did!

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