- 4 years ago
I need to vent. I just went on a holiday shopping spree and, yikes! I went right over my budget. I feel guilty because I spent a lot of money on myself 🙁 despite the facts that I was given that money as gift from my parents to spend in whatever I (and my husband) wanted.
In part, I guess I feel guilty because I feel I should have spent that money with my husband, but when I asked him if there was anything he wanted to buy he only asked for a perfume (an expensive one, which I bought for him with that money). He said I could spend the rest on clothes, because I haven’t bought any clothes since July and most of what I had (before today’s shopping spree) was summer clothes (capris, t-shirts, etc.) We moved countries and since I didn’t want to bring all my old clothes (I had clothes from three years before) I only took with me what I was going to use for the next six months until winter. So, I guess I shouldn’t be feeling guilty because what I bought was winter clothes for the next months (and probably years, I bought good quality clothes).
Yet, I still do feel guilty and it is mostly because of some particular items 🙁 I feel I shouldn’t have bought them, even though I do feel I need them. I am trying to come up with valid arguments to justify me buying them, that doesn’t sound like excuses. So far, I have this ones:
– Waxing Equipment: Bought it because I almost never shave/wax/pluck/etc. my legs because I am lazy and I hate doing it and then, two days later, having to do it again. Yet, my husband sometimes (most often when I ask) says he would love for me to have soft smooth legs (no hairs on them) as he would love to see me wear more skirts and dresses (I bought some of those on my shopping spree). On the long run, I guess it will help me?
– Comfortable Black Pumps (shoes): My total count of shoes before today was six: (1) Black boots torned and old (the should be in the trash, but since I only had capris -no jeans- I used them to completely cover my legs); (2) smaller boots ripped on the front and very worned; (3) an old pair of tennis that I have had with me since 2010 -I think; (4) Shiny pumps sandals from my wedding, too high to wear on a daily basis; (5) worned shoes I bought two years ago at a flea market; and (6) white flat shoes “nice” enought to wear with outfits. So I guess I did need some shoes. I bought some fancy boots that are very comfortable -and were on sale- and the black pumps because, well, I am 26 years old and I realize I have no pretty shoes for going out on dates with husband, no shoes for any dress or skirt, no shoes for formal presentations (we have plenty of those in grad school), no 26 years’ old shoes. I needed them because I want to start dressing up in a more sophisticated way, and I read they are a great way to bring up any casual look (I read I could wear them with jeans and I would look more classy)
– Underwear: I am very humiliated to say this, but even though I have read plenty of times that the basis for any outfit is the underwear I almost never buy good/new bras. During the last six months I lost three bras, which let me with only three bras: a strapless, a fancy sporty-style bra and a “normal” bra too lose to fit me well. I bought two more bras, and even thouh I knew I need them I just…I feel guilty.
– Perfume: I want to smell nice? My husband said that it is okay to spend a lot on perfume because they last for a long time so the investment on the long run is small. A few days ago we were trying some perfumes and I sprayed myself a Nina Ricci one and he just felt in love with the way I smelled. He said he really like it, and encourage me to buy it but I considered it a waste of money. Yet, I couldn’t take my mind away from the smell that lasted for the rest of the day. I saw the perfume today and I just…I tried looking for a cheaper version with a similar smell, but I couldn’t find anything! I bought it because, well, I want to smell nice.
I know this is a silly post, but I really needed to vent. What I spend won’t affect us in anyway, pherhaps only in that the “savings” from that gifted money are less than what I was hoping to have for next year. I don’t plan to have another shopping spree in at least 6 or 7 months, and I tried my best to buy things that were necessary and that fit me well (I spend almost 12 hours trying clothes and comparing prices). The above items are the only ones that I might sort of regret buying, not because I didn’t need them or liked them, but because I am thinking that maybe I could have bought them next year or next month. Yet, I would have had to buy it.
Overall, I think I just wanted to tell somebody that I went over my budget and hear some similar stories and maybe some tips and/or advice as to how to get over the guilt, hehe. Well, thank you for reading!
TL;DR I spend a lot of money on things that I needed and really liked (fit well, many options, etc.) but there were a few items I could have bought in the future, I guess. I feel guilty because I spend to much money on myself and I am not used to spend it that way. I am just looking to vent out. Thanks!