shopping with FI? Has anyone done it

posted 1 year ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I wouldn’t go with my SO – in my eyes it ruins the magic a little, but having said that I’m a sucker for some traditions, where as others don’t see it as a big deal.

If you want to take him, take him! But make sure he wants to go too. You can only get that first look of your future wife in her dress once, you know? He might be gunning for it. My now husband didn’t want to know a single thing about my dress – some grooms don’t!

In any case, are you able to maybe talk to your bridal party beforehand? Tell #1 she needs to be honest, #2 to acknowledge your style and be realistic about her expectations and #3 to just not be a bitch about it?

What about your Mum?

I couldn’t imagine going shopping without my girls!

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

I am going dress shopping with FH. He wants to be a part of it. When I first asked him, he got kind of riled up and was all, what if you wear cream and I wear an ivory shirt and we clash??? I thought he was joking but he was dead serious. So Mr. Fashionista will be coming along. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee

Go by by yourself, it’s what I did with no regrets. When it’s just you, you have no possibility of being railroaded into something you don’t really want. Have confidence in your own fashion choices.   And if you have doubts then your Fiancée can make a ruling

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I would take him. Maybe have him pick two or three of his favorites and you pick the final one and not tell him. Like some men do with engagement rings. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

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rubilove :  I don’t know… none of the responses you listed were actually insensitive.  You texted them, so they couldn’t see your body language.  I think it’s unfair to call your sister a bitch for saying she didn’t like something and also complain about your friend not giving a real opinion.  You had to harangue your Fiance into giving an opinion, so imo he’s not a good choice to take shopping.  Unless you are wanting these girls to be constantly telling you how wonderful you are, no matter what you look like, I feel like these girls did their jobs.  If you want to control what and how people have opinions, go alone.  Don’t bring your Fiance because he’ll have to be convinced to give an opinion, which is exhausting.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

I took him shopping with me the first time I went, just the two of us. I specifically asked the consultant to put me into lots of different silhouettes and styles, so I could get his feedback on what he liked. He was very honest and told me which shapes flattered me and which shapes he didn’t care for, which was infinitely helpful. I made sure to try on dresses I didn’t love so I wouldn’t buy one he had seen and ruin the surprise. He definitely had a favorite silhouette, which helped me make a decision when I went to a different boutique with my mom a week later. In all honesty, for me, his opinion was the only one that mattered, so I was glad I took him!

Post # 10
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Newbee

My fiancé and I went together! We’ve planned every other part of our wedding together, and to us it just made sense that this wasn’t any different. I went suit shopping with him, and he went dress shopping with me. We’re also get ready together on our wedding day, so it wasn’t important to us to do a first look or anything!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

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rubilove :  A good consultant at the store will be able to help you, if you ask her for suggestions and feedback.  

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - Las Vegas, NV

My fiancé goes with me to my alterations appointments and has seen my dress. How I look at it is he is only seeing one piece of the puzzle because the day of the wedding I will have hair done, makeup done, accessories on and shoes on. He isn’t seeing the full package but just getting a sneak peek but to each is own. I also wanted him to be a part of everything because after all, it is his wedding too not just mine. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I went with my fiance. We didn’t do a first look at the wedding, but walking down the aisle was still intense and memorable.

I originally went dress shopping with my sister and my best friend. My sister liked everything and had no opinions really. My best friend wanted me in a tight and dramatic strapless mermaid, which objectively looked pretty good on me, but wasn’t my style at all. 

It was much easier shopping with my fiance. It was casual, we just went on a whim. I didn’t have any family in town, and my closest friends don’t live near me either. My (now husband) knows my style. He was really excited to see them on me. It was a special shopping trip for us. I don’t regret it. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I second going it alone! I went alone and I loved the sales advisor lady who was very honest with me and completely got me. I am not that bothered what my friends might think – I wanted something that I liked because I know when I feel happy and confident is when I look my best. 

I would have taken my mum but she was away and I wanted to get on with it.  I have no regrets! I think everyone thought I woudl have something wacky but I just loved this one on me… 

Good luck and enjoy it! xx

Julia and Mike (1 of 14)

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

My SO is not allowed to set foot inside the bridal dress store and he knows it. 

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