- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
So I have three sisters that I am not very close to. We’re very different. They are really loud and agressive, while I’m more reserved and passive, they live for the party, and I have never touched a drop of alchahol. We don’t necessarily hate each other, but we have a bad past. We fought for months after I placed my baby for adoption, and it got to the point where I just left home to start over. They weren’t even happy for me when I met the love of my life. I got the impression that they felt I didn’t deserve such a great guy after having an unplanned pregnancy. Living 5 hours away from my family gave us the space and time to heal, and we’re on talking terms now. My mom was upset when I told her that I wanted to have friends for bridesmaids instead of my sisters, but my sisters themselves seen it coming and didn’t put up any fuss about it.
My problem is that of the four girls I asked to be in my wedding party, only three said yes. I left a lot of friends behind when I moved, so I don’t have much options. The one that refused, did so because of suspicion. Her entire family has this thing where if you’re a bridesmaid three times, you will never get married. well my wedding would be #3 for her, and shes currently in a 7 year long relationship with a chef who works overseas, so she didn’t want to take her chances. Before you think that shes lieing, she wants to be an usher, help with decorating, do anything to help with the wedding, just not be a bridesmaid. I could tell she genuinly wanted to, and she had a hard time telling me no. we’re still very close.
My fiance already asked 4 people so we can’t cut it down to 3. I’m not sure what to do, I still have about 2 years till the wedding, and my fiance wants me to wait until I make a new friend. I don’t want any of my sisters. I have 3 of them, how do I pick just one? I still have hard feeling towards them. They weren’t there for me when I was at my worst, I don’t feel that they deserve to be there at my best. My fiance gets along with my sisters, but knows how much they bring me down. He would rather me have a stranger than any of my sisters.
What do you think I should do? Should I be patient and wait until the right person comes along? or should I give in and ask one of my siblings?