(Closed) Short a bridesmaid????

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I think it’s totally fine to have an uneven number, and lots of people here have done that… Hopefully they’ll speak up.  We just happened to have the same number of closest friends.  But really, it’s not a "have to" thing… Don’t settle for someone you hardly know.  Being a bridesmaid is a hard job requiring real love for the bride!

Post # 4
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2640 posts
Sugar bee

Don’t ask her. 

Does your Fiance understand all that goes into being a BM?  There’s more to it than being a Groomsmen.  Maybe you need to explain that to him.  Actaully with your jr Bridesmaid or Best Man, you are even.  It’s not like your asking a grown man to date a 12 yr old.  He’s just walking down the aisle with her.  And really they could just walk together after the ceremony.  Before the ceremony, the girls can walk alone.)  Good luck.

Post # 5
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Newbee

I just wanted to say that my Fiance is having 7 groomsmen and i am having 6 bridesmaids. I didn’t have anyone else I felt close enough to to ask just to even it out, and he didn’t have anyone on his list that he wanted to make an usher! I think it’s fine. It definitely shows that you put thougth in your selection. People can tell if they are just being asked to even things out and i think that might be kind of akward for her. Can you ask her to do something else-maybe a personal attendant or something?

We are having the last bridesmaid walk with the last two groomsmen and i think it will be perfectly fine!

Post # 7
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699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I have 6 bridesmaids and a personal attendant. He has 5 groomsmen and another friend and my brother in law are going to be the ushers. It’s uneven and we are totally fine with it.

Maybe it would be helpful to pose the "what if they breakup" question. I think he would feel weird about that too.

Post # 8
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497 posts
Helper bee

I had 3 bridesmaids and my husband had 2 groomsmen.  Not an issue in the least!!  Feel free to show him my wedding pics if that’s what he’s worried about. 

 

Post # 9
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613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I added a ton of bridesmaids that I was not that close to because Fiance wanted an even number.  DONT DO IT.  Becuase I am not that close with the added girls (5 total, long story) most have done absolutely nothing to help…and paying for all the extra gifts, flowers, make up, etc has been a fortune.  I am having nightmares of getting dressed with 9 girls poking in and out of my room…If I could do it all over again I would only ask women that I am really close with…

Post # 10
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536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - The Desmond Hotel in Malvern, PA

I had 6 bridesmaids and Mr. C. had 5 groomsmen.  We had no kids or juniors in the wedding.  In my brother’s wedding, he had 4 groomsmen and my SIL had 3 bridesmaids. In both cases, one of the attendants just doubled-up when walking out of the ceremony/being introduced at the reception and it looked fine!

I’ll be posting a recap post soon with bridal party photos and I bet he wouldn’t even notice that there’s one more girl than guy in our bridal party!  Honestly symmetry is not a necessity. In this age, anything goes with weddings, especially when it comes to the number of people in a wedding party.  You should have the people who are close to you, and you should NOT ask someone you barely know just to "even things out." While your fiance hasn’t asked for much and you may feel like you owe him this favor, I really wouldn’t do it.  It seems like it would just make things more complicated later.

Post # 11
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948 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay

We have an uneven number of bridesmaids and groomsmen…and neither one of us cares one bit!  It’s all about having people that mean something to you, standing beside you.  Not some random girl that may or may not be around in 8 months.

It’s perfectly fine to have one less bridemaid.

Post # 12
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39 posts
Newbee

Just have your one bridesmaid walk out with two groomsmen.  It’s more fun that way for her!

Post # 14
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536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - The Desmond Hotel in Malvern, PA

Good girl… stick to your guns 🙂

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Stick by what you want & you are right, you don’t need the added stress  You shouldn’t put random people in your wedding party out just to even things out.  Plus, if you count the junior Bridesmaid or Best Man then the sides are even! Hope this photo helps, but remember, it’s also how you place them during photos.  
 
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