(Closed) Short Bride and groom; should we request the the bridal party where short heals?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
5073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

unless you are buying their shoes for them, let them wear what they want.

Post # 4
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ditto what Michigan Bride said. 

Post # 5
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would not tell people what shoes to wear, in my opinion.  My sister (MOH) and a friend (BM) were taller than me on my wedding day.  And several groomsmen were taller than my husband.

I wouldn’t even consider this as an issue…

Post # 6
1901 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

I’m 4′ 11″ and every single one of my girls is taller than me. In fact, one of my bridesmaids is 6′!! I’m letting them wear whatever shoes they want. 🙂

Post # 7
4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I disagree with the above. Brides make requirements about shoes ALL THE TIME… (a certain color, closed toe, etc, or even require the bridesmaids to buy specific shoes!) I don’t see how dictating a shoe height is different. I told my girls they had to wear black shoes, and I certainly didn’t pay for them!

Post # 8
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Depending on the length of the dress you chose, flats or low heels may not be flattering. Let them pick. You aren’t going to look like mini bride and groom.

Post # 9
46589 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Although I appreciate your angst about height in the pictures, I always have to smile when I see these posts. All of your friends and family know that you are both short. This is not going to change the rest of your life. Why is it a problem on your wedding day?

On the other hand, I think the bride has a right to request the girls wear a certain shoe. We see it here all the time, and all the Bees are not paying for their girls’ shoes. If you prefer them to wear flats, i would ask it of them.

Don’t forget that your photographer can always get creative about positioning the wedding party on stairs, ledges etc.

Post # 10
3374 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

As a super short bride, I chose to wear 4 inch heels on my wedding day. My Darling Husband is 6’3 and I wanted to make sure our pictures looked “normal” lol. Even though everyone knows I’m short, I don’t think of myself that way?

I didn’t worry about what my bridal party wore.

Post # 12
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

With floor-length gowns I think it’s reasonable to ask them to wear flats. But you should buy them.

Post # 13
6830 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

If you are requesting them to wear a certain style shoe then you should be buying said shoe. 

Post # 14
1052 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars

Heels affect more than height.  They affect my posture and my confidence too. 

I would let them wear whatever they’d like.  A good photographer will position you to not make you look “miniature”.

Post # 15
47 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think it’s perfectly fine to ask that they wear a certain type of shoe. My Maid/Matron of Honor and I were recently in a wedding and had to find silver shoes. We had such a hard time finding shoes we liked to go with the dresses we decided it would have liked it better if the bride had told us the exact shoes she wanted us to wear. So when it came time to discuss shoes for my wedding, my Maid/Matron of Honor and I went and picked out an affordable pair of shoes that everyone could wear again and my bridesmaids had no problem buying them. I guess it just depends on your girls and how they would feel about it. 

Post # 16
925 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t see anything wrong with it! It’s your day! We all wear what other people tell us to on their day, so why not request people do what you would like on yours?

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