Post # 1
I am 5’3″ and he is 5’7″, we would prefer not to look like a mini bride and groom on our day. How would we go about asking our Bridesmaids to wear short heals or flats for the ceremony? I know the girls all love to wear 4+ inch heels but we would prefer that they not! Help!
Post # 3
unless you are buying their shoes for them, let them wear what they want.
Post # 4
Ditto what Michigan Bride said.
Post # 5
I would not tell people what shoes to wear, in my opinion. My sister (MOH) and a friend (BM) were taller than me on my wedding day. And several groomsmen were taller than my husband.
I wouldn’t even consider this as an issue…
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
I’m 4′ 11″ and every single one of my girls is taller than me. In fact, one of my bridesmaids is 6′!! I’m letting them wear whatever shoes they want. 🙂
Post # 7
I disagree with the above. Brides make requirements about shoes ALL THE TIME… (a certain color, closed toe, etc, or even require the bridesmaids to buy specific shoes!) I don’t see how dictating a shoe height is different. I told my girls they had to wear black shoes, and I certainly didn’t pay for them!
Post # 8
Depending on the length of the dress you chose, flats or low heels may not be flattering. Let them pick. You aren’t going to look like mini bride and groom.
Post # 9
Although I appreciate your angst about height in the pictures, I always have to smile when I see these posts. All of your friends and family know that you are both short. This is not going to change the rest of your life. Why is it a problem on your wedding day?
On the other hand, I think the bride has a right to request the girls wear a certain shoe. We see it here all the time, and all the Bees are not paying for their girls’ shoes. If you prefer them to wear flats, i would ask it of them.
Don’t forget that your photographer can always get creative about positioning the wedding party on stairs, ledges etc.
Post # 10
As a super short bride, I chose to wear 4 inch heels on my wedding day. My Darling Husband is 6’3 and I wanted to make sure our pictures looked “normal” lol. Even though everyone knows I’m short, I don’t think of myself that way?
I didn’t worry about what my bridal party wore.
Post # 11
Yes, our concern is definitely more for our pictures. We are both photographers and our pictures are very important! I also feel that regardless of whether our families know we’re both short, we still would prefer that there is some symmetry to some of our group photos.
If we are to ask them to wear short heels, how would we go about it? Should we just buy the shoes for the girls or should we let them pick the shoe style they want in the prefered heel size?
The dresses are long and you would not see the shoes at all, unless the wind blows Picture below.
Post # 12
With floor-length gowns I think it’s reasonable to ask them to wear flats. But you should buy them.
Post # 13
If you are requesting them to wear a certain style shoe then you should be buying said shoe.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars
Heels affect more than height. They affect my posture and my confidence too.
I would let them wear whatever they’d like. A good photographer will position you to not make you look “miniature”.
Post # 15
I think it’s perfectly fine to ask that they wear a certain type of shoe. My Maid/Matron of Honor and I were recently in a wedding and had to find silver shoes. We had such a hard time finding shoes we liked to go with the dresses we decided it would have liked it better if the bride had told us the exact shoes she wanted us to wear. So when it came time to discuss shoes for my wedding, my Maid/Matron of Honor and I went and picked out an affordable pair of shoes that everyone could wear again and my bridesmaids had no problem buying them. I guess it just depends on your girls and how they would feel about it.
Post # 16
I don’t see anything wrong with it! It’s your day! We all wear what other people tell us to on their day, so why not request people do what you would like on yours?