(Closed) Short Bride and groom; should we request the the bridal party where short heals?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m 5’9″ and my Future Sister-In-Law is 4’11”. She bought the same pair of shoes with 4.5″ heels for everyone in the bridal party and no one batted an eyelash about the difference in height. I think you’re worrying too much ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think you should buy them if you want something terribly specific (which I think all brides should do for all Bridesmaid or Best Man clothing/accessories, but that’s another topic entirely). However, there is no reason you can’t ask for a certain style, heel height (or flats), color, etc. This way your BM’s can still choose something they like (at least reasonably well) and is in their budget.

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I picked specific shoes I wanted my BMs o wear and I didn’t pay for them (cue *gasps* now) … They were silver ballet flats from Payless…. We got them on sale for like.. $14…. I didn’t feel badly about asking them to buy them at all ๐Ÿ™‚ So, I definitely think you can dictate heel height – even saying only flats. That is perfectly fine ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I was also in a wedding where we were just told black shoes, whatever we wanted… Any heel height , so that the girls didn’t HAVE to buy new shoes.  So, you could say the same thing with a color and a specific heel height – many girls would likely own them already.

Post # 36
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361 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@lionskitty:  I think chairs would be super cute!  There are so many fun photos I could imagine taking wtih chairs….everyone sitting with you lying across their laps, or the chairs spaced out at an artsy distance etc… 

Post # 38
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1990 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Definitely go with the flats or kitten heeled little open-toed heels!

Its YOUR wedding and they are there to be supportive not to worry you about photos~

I’m sure they’d understand and since they’ll be in long dresses anyway there’s nothing to worry about!  I’d probably go with a very low heel just to keep the formal aspect cuz those dresses are gorgeous and I don’t really think normal ballet flats do them justice!

Post # 39
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

You could always request that they wear flats/kitten heels for the ceremony, then whatever they want for the reception. If you tells your bridesmaids your concern, they should be ok with accommodating it. Keep in mind that you both may be overtowered by the groomsmen, so it could be a moot point.

 

Post # 40
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Haha, okay, so I’m barely, BARELY 5’1″.  ALL my bridesmaids were taller than me.  I say, embrace it and let your girls wear whatever they’d like!

Post # 41
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Sugar bee

My party was all much taller then I. I am 5’3 and the shortest Bridesmaid or Best Man was 5’7 without shoes. The tallest 6’0. They all wore heels and I wore tiny wedges.

It doesn’t look weird at all. It looks like how we look in real life. I like the wedding pics to look like me. (The best me possible, but still me. But that said I think you can request almost anything, but that they have the right to say no.

Post # 42
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I say it’s not a big deal to let them wear whatever but if you insist on them wearing short heels I think you should buy them! I say embrace the fact that we are all different and everyone is not supposed to be the same height…..I love pp pic above…it’s adorable!

Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m actually doing the opposite.  I’m 5’9″, my Maid/Matron of Honor is 5’1″, matron of honor is 5’4″ and bridesmaid is 4’11”.  I’ve asked them to wear the biggest shoes they’re comfortable in for the ceremony and pictures while I wear flats.  For the reception, I imagine they’ll change into whatever they want.

I think its fine to ask! 

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