(Closed) Short bride, tall groom – would love your wedding advice!

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 2
2529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013


I got married a year ago and there is a big height difference between my husband and I. I am 5’0 and he is 6’0. I wore heels for the ceremony (I think they’re about 2-3 inches) but they soon came off at the reception because I kept getting them stuck in the grass and walking out of them so I just went bare (stocking) feet after that.

To be honest with you we didn’t do anything special for our height difference, we just listened to our photographer and did what she told us to do. A lot of the photos of just the two of us did involve us both standing up so obviously yes, you can see the height difference. And when we had our family ones we were all standing.

I think it depends on if you like seeing the height difference between you or not. I am not bothered by it (I know I’m smaller than him, I’m smaller than a lot of people) so I didn’t specifically go out of my way to get any creative shots in. 

Listen to your photographer and trust they’ll make good of your height difference.


Here is a photo of my pastor, me and my husband. Look how small I am (and this is with heels on!)


Post # 3
1325 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon

nittanybride14:  5’4″ here, Fiance is 6’2″ or 3″ depending on how curly his hair is that day (no really).

I rarely wear heels (despite adoring them), but I found a pair of mid-height heels (3in) that are very comfortable.  I will still be switcing to sandals for the reception.  

We’ve done engagement photos and we look fine.  Our photographer is great an I adore some of te tiptoe kissing pictues from the engagement photos.  We aren’t doing anything special or worrying about it.

Post # 6
1992 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m 5’0 and Fiance is 6’4.  I’m not trying to do anything special though.  I don’t really care what it looks like in photos.  We are who we are.  He’s tall, I’m short.  I will be wearing heels, but that’s because I like heels, and would never wear flats on my wedding day regardless. Not that there’s anything wrong with flats.  I just personally prefer hills when I’m getting fancied up for anything.

Post # 7
2529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

nittanybride14:  thank you! We had engagement photos done by a different photographer and there is that awkwardness that you’re talking about so I was really worried on the day but when it came to it, I don’t know if it’s because I was so happy so I/we were more relaxed about the whole thing or if it was having a different photographer but all the photographs look lovely.


Post # 8
157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

nittanybride14:  I’m not married yet but this is something I worry about! I’m 5’4″, SO is 6’5″. I don’t think I will be able to wear 4″ heels at my wedding either, lol. Maybe you could do some sitting shots? I’m still short compared to my SO sitting down but I think it makes the difference less apparent.

Post # 9
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My cousin is 6’11-7′ and he married a girl who is about 5’4, talk about a height difference! I’m obviously not going to post photos of them, but some of my favorite poses are him dipping her and one of him carrying her. Another one is him behind her with his arms around, he’s leaning down a little but it doesn’t look awkward.  I also like ones where there is a little space between them and they are holding hands walking away from the camera. Tip toe pics are way cute too. Obviously no forehead to forehead pics though unless he is sitting. 

Post # 10
5365 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

I’m 5’0 and my Fiance is 6’1! Were actually both wearing tennis shoes because I do NOT wear heels, whatsoever. I love our height difference and don’t plan on trying to down play it or anything. The pics I have from the proposal, he is almost the same height as me when he’s down on one knee! When we took our engagment pics he was holding me in some and in others I was standing on a rock so we could be fore head to fore head. 

Post # 11
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

nittanybride14:  I could have written this post myself! Same heights as you, and I will be wearing about 4″ heels on the day. I try not to think about the height difference, or the fact that I’ll probably be super uncomfortable in my shoes (I have tiny feet, so heels are REALLY high in terms of steepness. Why don’t people make stylish shoes with a platform but with a medium height heel so it doesn’t feel like you’re standing on your toes, can’t walk normally and about to break your ankles!?)

OK rant over lol. Anyway, back during my mad Pinterest pinning days I found a couple of pics of short brides and tall grooms, some which show the height difference and some which disguise it or play off it. They all look gorgeous, so I’m sure us shorties will look just fine on our big day with our gentle giants 🙂

This one isn’t with a particularly short bride, but would work well:

Other shots that work with a short bride are where she’s standing on a step or a low wall. In our engagement photos I took the initiative to stand on a massive tree root so Fiance and I were eye-to-eye and the photo turned out great. We also did photos lying down, sitting on a bench together, Fiance sitting on the bench and me leaning against him with my legs stretched out on the bench, him lifting me (maybe practise being lifted beforehand in front of a mirror – ours looked super awkward).

Post # 12
2425 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’m 4′ 9 my fiance on the other hand is 6′ 5. 

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